to feel weird about my friend and my brother going for coffee together?

[BettyButterknife]

Brother is single, friend is in unhappy relationship with one DC. Both have expressed an interest in each other to me, then they met for 3 hours yesterday.

Brother is now declaring undying love for friend. Not sure how she feels. Don't know if her DP knows they met up.

I feel so weird about this whole situation, I have a very bad feeling. AIBU or is it odd? I can't work out if I'm too close, or if I'm jealous, or just slightly put out.

It is kind of wierd, I certainly wouldn't want to be involved, think you should just let them sort it out themselves.

does your brother know she is in a relationship? If not, make sure he does. After that they are 2 grown adults who can do what they choose and take the consequences for themselves.

I think I would feel odd about it though

if he knows she is in a realtionship then on his head be it

she might be looking for an escape route, he might be it

i do thikn that if two people fancy each other, and one is in a relationship, then meeting is more than that, it's a date, and that takes things into a different realm

Oh yes, brother knows gingernut

YANBU to feel weird.

You need to step back from it but make sure your brother knows she is with someone and isn't happy. Make sure he doesn't get used.

I'd leave it alone tbh Betty although I understand how weird it is.

YANBU to feel weird. Stay well and truly out of it and refuse point blank to ever be the middle person.

If it goes tits up, you could be in a very awkward situation.

Sorry, not a very helpful post.

That's what I'm worried about - ending up in the middle. I'd hate that, and I really don't want to lose a friendship over it.

Lulumama - that's what I'm worried about. Feels like a date to me...

But I guess you're all right and I should stay out (not that there's anything I could or would do anyway!).

Ugh. Really hope I'm making a bigger deal of this than they are/will.