To think I might be allowed one little holiday a year, for my birthday?!

[ThePFJ]

My DH goes out until very late every Friday night roleplaying with his friends, and goes away four times a year for a week each time camping with his 'live action roleplay' crew. I rarely go out, because I don't have many friends in this area yet, and this doesnt bother me. However, I want to go away this weekend with some old girlfriends of mine shopping in Birmingham, and it falls on my birthday. Because on his last birthday we had to spend a small amount of his birthday money on emergency groceries for our toddler, HE is throwing a FIT about me going away and spending money on my birthday. I have also been seriously ill the last 6 months and now I am recovering I REALLY could do with some time out. I KNOW he is being unreasonable right?

Please someone give me permission to tell him he can go %&$% himself.

Thanks. xxx

as an aside, i do love the phrase cock off

Spat out my tea laughing then. You girls are class. Am well cheered up now.

36!

He sounds about 17.

He sounds not a little selfish, that kind of thing wouldn't even come into my DHs head, nor mine, we don't keep a tally.

Clearly he does, but only when he feels you might actually get something.

It is a fav of mine too.

Not one that gets much of an outing IRL though, unless i'm talking about the MIL

My favourite word to hurl at idiots is Numbnuts.

So he gets 4 weeks a year (plus every Friday night) to himself but doesn't want you to go out for a weekend?

I'd be tempted to introduce him to the concept of camping in his own back garden - permanently.

I'm loving cock off.

I kind of wish i could use it more in RL.

'Oh do cock off, there's a good fellow'
Or the like.

[bringing down the tone]

Another MN fav of mine is fuck the fuck off

[bringing the tone down further]

I would spend the family money paying for the weekend away and your birthday money shopping while you're there....

um... do you think there might be something else behind it? Like maybe he was planning something for your birthday and when he found out you wanted to go away he wanted to put you off without giving the surprise away and it just came out all wrong....?

or am I being utterly naive and deluded?

if this is not the case and he's just being selfish then please do tell him to go %&$% himself

You don´t need anyone´s permission.

With men, you never ASK things, you TELL them. Eg: "I´m off to B. that weekend, just thought you should know."

It´s your decision.