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to think that if you text someone asking for help, then facebook them asking for help, and then

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coldtits · 17/02/2010 14:50

you get their message 45 minutes later and ring them back, they should not then switch the goddamn phone off on you??? My 'friend' only rings me when she wants something. Be it help, support, a shoulder to cry on, someone to rant to - she actually has no idea about my issues, my life or anything related to it, because she's never asked and she never contacts me unless it's to rant about something to do with her.

She messaged me wanting my financial advice - presumably she is now doing something better than that and doesn't wish to talk about money any more, so doesn't need to speak to me, so won't bother.

I feel really used sometimes.

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Tortington · 17/02/2010 14:51

oh really sorry chuck, anything i can do?

coldtits · 17/02/2010 14:52

I totally hashed that.

I mean she messaged me for advice, and now won't answer her phone so I can give it.

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coldtits · 17/02/2010 14:53

No, custy, it's fine, it's not me who 'needs' the help, it's her (alledgedly). But I can't help thinking that if you need the help so badly you send them a text message and two FB messages in 45 minutes, perhaps you need to be prepared to answer the phone!

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Tortington · 17/02/2010 14:54

oh i see wrong end of stick for me( as bloody per!)

YANBU - stupid stupid friend

ChasingSquirrels · 17/02/2010 14:56

also sounds like you don't need her in your life tbh

BigBadMummy · 17/02/2010 15:06

she sounds like a real energy vampire.

If she calls again I would suggest you don't answer it or if you do say "sorry, I did try you earlier when I had some time to talk to you but sadly now I am dealing with my own DCs / disasters / work / cleaning and can't really talk".

She sounds selfish and ignorant and you could do without her

Lulumama · 17/02/2010 15:10

have you tried to talk to her about this?

like, 'Hi XXX, when you message me urgently like this and then i try to call, and you're phone is off, it makes me really worried, if you need me, can youmake sure you can take my call..'

she sounds like a leech and friendships should not leav you feeling used

potatofactory · 17/02/2010 15:13

Sounds like many of my experiences with my erstwhile best friend. There's only so many times there can be valid excuses for these things...

toomuchcoffee · 17/02/2010 15:31

How annoying! Some people have a very one-sided view of friendships. Supportive friendships do really need to have give as well as take. Maybe she needs a little nudge to remember how to behave? Chin up. xx

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