I apolagise now if i ramble, this might be a long one.
Me 21 and dp 24 met through a friend 9yrs ago, we have been together almost 6yrs and we have a son 31mnths and a daughter 15mnths, Dp is from the midlands im suffolk. Dp moved in with me at my mums when wed been together a year to find work here, we then looked for a house. Ds arrived a year later, Things with dps family were very very strained as they felt like id stolen him from them or something to that effect, it all came to a head at ds christening when he was 10mnths old, me and mil had a fight dp announced half way through i was 12wks pregnant with dd and then for almost a year we didnt see them. Things were very very bitter. Since having ds ive lost all but one friend and im very very lonely, the only person i see in the week other than dp is my mum, i dont fit in any group ive tried and its getting me down and i want my children to make friends.
When dd arrived i decided enough was enough and wrote to mil and we cleared the air after a few meetings, since then ive actually enjoyed seeing them, yes she still does the irritating mil things but ultimately i trust her and she helps us out.
We are very close to my family as theyre just up the road from us and we lived my mum step dad and younger siblings.
Our first home has been rapidly outgrown having brought it as a couple we are now a family of four in a tiny 2bed terrace, we are a bit trapped due to redundancy and money troubles.
PILs have recently brought a pub and put there house for rent, ive always loved there house, and to dps shock i asked to rent it. We will finally have space and a garden and its alot cheaper living for us, dp has MUCH better job prospects and in the event of another redundancy could help in the pub to keep us going. we can pay off our debts at a lower rate as they wont be priority (keeping a roof over our heads) and Ill be surrounded by 3sils near my age with children, who i get on well with meaning instant friends and people to show me around.
However its 100miles from 'home' and my family are devastated, they think mil is controlling us and so on, thats not true and im hurt that they believe i am that weak.
Im giving my family a fresh start. I know it will be hard leaving the place i know so well but im young, the children are at the moment we are free to be adventurous.
Maybe in 5mnths ill hate it and come home, but surely when there's so many positives and the only negative is leaving my mum siblings and grandma behind, who i can drive to see, get trains and buses if there's car hassle and i have the space for them to stay ive already brought spare beds, ds has a trundle bed under his and so on. it takes 1hr 30mins in the car, sometimes less if we bother getting up early and miss traffic.
Surely im not being unreasonable to just jump and try this out?
My family are making me feel so guilty and selfish. when in the beginning they supported me, im actually scared to speak to them incase they change my mind, i move on march 1st and id have liked to enjoyed spending time with them.
All i want is a better home, and life for us. And occasionally some spare money, something that is impossible here.
SO AIBU?