AIBU To be upset no effort was made for valentines day ..

[MCDL]

AIBU to be upset no effort or no plans were made for valentines day and to want leave DP and DD to fend for themselves for the afternoon and evening.

WE haven't done anything, but it doesn't bother me.

I see it as a money making exercise for card companies etc.

Depends - plenty of people don't do anything.

Did you make it clear that you expected something?

Have you done anything for your DP?

Need more info:

• Has an effort been made in past years?

• What did you do for them?

• Did they give any explanation or excuse?

Not nice to feel forgotten about. And terrible that they made no effort to make you feel loved/special.

It depends, what do you usually do? Dh and I don't bother with it.

YANBU.

It´s not that hard to buy a card-ooh-I should copyright that!

Has anyone even said Happy Valentines?

Didnt expect anything as we both agree it a money making racket but thought maybe might get a little break from DD today 3.7 ...

Yes thank you early bird it just about doing the extra little bit today to be made feel loved and special ...

YANBU - even if you believe it's a waste of money, breakfast in bed costs no more than breakfast eaten downstairs.

YANBU imo. We are very strapped for cash at the moment so no gifts but so far DP has let me have a lie in, brought me breakfast in bed, cleaned the house whilst I had a nice hot bath & made me some lovely lunch. I appreciate this far more than anything he could of bought me. Commercial or not what's the harm in stopping & remembering how much you love someone.

But what have you done to make him feel loved and special? It works both ways.

YABU, my DH is away on a course this weekend and I haven't received so much as a text yet today to say he's still alive (no real reason why he shouldn't be, and I don't begrudge him of this as I know he's busy). I think for some people its not an important day or one worth marking, he could be from the school of thought 'I love her every day in my own way, so why should today be different?'

We don't and never have celebrated Valentine's Day so neither of us is upset about it. Maybe your DP doesn't want to do Valentine's Day either, MCDL. He might feel he doesn't want to be told by advertisers how he should express his love for his partner.

YABU

Valentine's day is supposed to be for declaring your love to someone who doesn't know about it, not for people already in relationship.
I HATE the way it has been taken over by couples, just another excuse to buy useless tat, and line more of Hallmark's shareholders' pockets.

Valentines Day is for the youngsters or for relationships in the early days although DH did get me a little gift last year.