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Original poster

to be pissed off at being a twitter joke on valentines day

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 13:52

you know sort of thing 'ha ha wife got me card and i haven't got her anything shall i get dressed and go to petrol station'
next thing there is a pic of some naff thing he bought from corner shop - sent before he'd given it to me so joke not for me but his imaginary friends on twitter.
and i'm really pissed off at being a joke to these people i've never met and my husband being the architect of it.
he spends bloody ages on twitter - he tells them things he doesn't tell me and is constantly on there being charming and funny and what do i get? grumbles about the washing up and laundry and all the other real life stuff.

and i couldn't care less about valentines day. wasn't even remotely offended before i saw twitter stuff.

so am i humourless or right to feel betrayed, ignored and laughed at?

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BuckBuckMcFate · 14/02/2010 13:55

YANBU

He, however, is being a nob

Big lack of respect imo

CrowAndAlice · 14/02/2010 13:55

Tell him his twitter friends are imaginary but your MN Bitches are real and coming to knee his nuts...

FrankieValli · 14/02/2010 13:55

lol
like women do on mn then?

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 13:56

he sounds like a twat

how funny

I would be having serious words

err, is your husband Steve from "One Born Every Minute ??

posieparker · 14/02/2010 13:58

Get yourself a twitter profile and do something very very funny.

FabIsGoingToBeFabIn2010 · 14/02/2010 14:00

Betrayed? Really?

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:01

i am v rarely on mn. used it a bit when i was on maternity leave and when i do use it i talk to him about what i find (fool. stoking flames of mumsy missus persona for him to spin comedy gold out of).

i'm really upset and down about this. i've tried to talk to him about his twitter use but we just end up arguing. it's not so much the time but the fact that i'm not party to it and he is clearly laughing at me - or situations involving me - and generally putting more effort into his relationship with them than his relationship with me.

that's not good is it?! is it?!

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:04

yes betrayed cos i thought i was a joke between us but i was only allowed in on it after he had shared it with twitter chums.
that make me feel like a bloody idiot.

i've also got a problem being refered to as 'the wife' and 'the missus'. post modern irony my fucking arse.

but maybe you're right and i'm over reacting - that's why i'm posting to get some perspective. and yes, i'll show him this thread before anyone points out the obvious.

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AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:05

gs, if that is how it makes you feel, then no it is most decidedly not good

nickschick · 14/02/2010 14:06

If you have twitter cant you make out the card was for another bloke but he saw it and you had to give it to him??

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:07

oh goody...you are showing him this thread ??

Mr GS, you need to show your wife more respect, mate

and your Twitter friends are probably thinking "what a twat to be so mocking of his wife..."

they are laughing at you, not with you

grow up, eh ?

scottishmummy · 14/02/2010 14:12

so you bitch to strangers on mn about him
he bitches on twitter about you
you have never meet the majority of us
he has never met the majority of them
cant you see the irony of your posts

on the this issue yabu, and and contradictory as you are using an anonymous forum with strangers.inviting them us opine on your dh

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:14

but he did it first, sm

and, it seems, rather makes a habit of it

so...nerrrr

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:15

no, i'm asking for your opinion on my reaction to the situation and my reading of it. i'm not asking you about him. this thread is 'am I being unreasonable'

he would say i am.

i'm trying to get some input from a disinterested party.

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scottishmummy · 14/02/2010 14:15

LOL and you of course are never on mn AF.yabu and hypocritical.here is a suggestion you both stop gassing to starngers.log off.have some real life chat to your husband

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:17

sm, whenever I am on MN, I see you knocking around

OP, you are not BU

Amapoleon · 14/02/2010 14:19

Give us his twitter name and we will twitterbomb him! .

Yanbu.

scottishmummy · 14/02/2010 14:20

LOL,got papers to finish and stuff.dp and children out for day

do you think i am stalking you AF.i just wanna be spesh friends that's all.dont be frightened (much)

scottishmummy · 14/02/2010 14:23

gs,cant you see the irony?you bellyache to strangers,that he bellyaches to strangers

why dont you both log off and talk.like RL yapping

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:26

sm you are right. we should 'chat' to each other but what we'll end up doing is having a row. again. and the children don't like that.

so i was wondering if it was me being unhinged about the whole twitter thing. hence post. and yes i can see the irony. i think i alluded to it above.

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PhoebeB · 14/02/2010 14:27

Hey gs think if this had happened to me I would be feeling very hurt. Think your man sounds like a bit of a dick. No offence.

AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:28

yes, sm you are a stalker

but you are myyy stalker

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:31

sometimes it's useful to have a view on a situation from someone not involved. that's what these boards are for. yes?

and i do get the irony. irony is got. recognised, recorded, witnessed.

but if i'd had lots of people repling to my thread saying 'oh for goodness sake where is your sense of humour, get over yourself'. well, that would have given me something to think about, woudn't it? do you see..?

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AnyFucker · 14/02/2010 14:40

don't mind sm, she comes in, posts common sense in sharp, short sentences, then bogs off

some of the rest of us like to yap a bit more, ya know, like just words on a screen...

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gatheringstones · 14/02/2010 14:47

no, calming down now. i guess, thinking about it, it wasn't me that was the joke but him. hapless husband, forced to take emergency measures. what pisses me off is that this persona isn't him at all. he got up with the kids and they drew 'cards' for me and he disappeared when we were shopping yesterday to try to get something, but i was urging him not to make a fuss.
but it's this partial representation of the truth that pisses me off. he's not the person he's pretending to be. why does he think it's funnier to not care than to care and why is he putting so much effort into getting laughs and appreciation from people he's never met? honestly, his twitter friends would never guess is sock drawer was colour coded.
but why does it make me feel so bad that he has this persona on twitter?! what's it to me?! apart from the bloke on there is much more fun that the bad tempered bugger i have to live with. maybe i am too literal and humourless.

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