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crying child

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ranirani · 14/02/2010 11:53

I am probably is the worst mothere ever, but I cant stand my 1 y.o. DS crying, drives me nuts! I have to leave him and go somewhere else to come down and then deal with him. Seems like whenever I want to sit down with a cuppa or talk on the phone he decides to cry for attention. Could be teething thing, but nevertheless it drives me nuts!! Although I do love him to bits! makes me think though that I AM a terrible mother and kids are not my thing, DH is pushing for second one, but when tough times like these come, having second child is the last thing I want. anyone else has this experience?

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Shitemum · 14/02/2010 11:58

I understand how you feel. when mine start whining or annoy each other till one of them cries i see red.

I think it's not the crying so much but just the fact that Dc are always at you for SOMETHING, its relentless.

I think the only solution is to try and get some time out to be on your own or out of the house.

pebbles79 · 14/02/2010 11:59

Actual crying I can deal with, it's when they make that horrible whiney sound that I need to leave the room, lol!

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ranirani · 14/02/2010 12:12

yeah, I know, THE WHINING!!!!!!!! that what gets me the most. teher are some days it is non stop and for no obvious reason. I m telling you when he whines like that I cant even think of having another child, how people go on on having 3,4 and more - no idea!

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Numberfour · 14/02/2010 12:19

fortunately DS is no 5 and he knows that i will not tolerate the whining! straight up to his room if he does that after a warning. BUT he is 5.....

so, looking on the upside, you have only about 4 yrs to go, OP!!

oh and YADefNBU!

bronze · 14/02/2010 12:21

I have a whiner of a three year old. Shes a real daddys girl and he lets her get away with anything but even he admitted to me she was getting on his nerves.

MillyMollyMoo · 14/02/2010 12:28

It's meant to drive you nuts, it's natures way of making sure you don't ignore the baby.
Making a cup of tea and chatting on the phone can be done whilst you amuse the little one, everyone has to do it.

beammeupscotty · 14/02/2010 12:29

YANBU. Negotiate a little 'time out' babysitter etc. Even a few hours a week to look forward to can save your life. Also I think being a parent is a 24/7 job whether you like it or not, and if you just accept it's not going to last forever, go with the flow and not fight it all the time - you'll cope better and not add pointless guilt to the stress you feel.

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ranirani · 14/02/2010 13:19

i hope it is not gonna last forever! could be due to extra stress I have had in the last 2 weeks: preparing a room for my new au pair and then training her with looking after DS and cleaning chores. I think all of that just getting to me finally; plus all of us have been ill, so not a good combination!

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ppeatfruit · 14/02/2010 18:53

I don't want to sound mean here but could he be missing the old au pair? A lot of parents don't seem to want to credit their do's with feelings. Put yourself in his place for a change. it must be crap to be a powerless very small person with adults who don't want to work out what you want when you can't talk.

Bigpants1 · 14/02/2010 19:29

You sound like a princess-"when I want a cuppa/to talk on the phone."
FGS-hes 1yr old-not 11! How else is he supposed to communicate with you? It will get better. Try to enjoy him as he is now. In a few yrs, youll be bemoaning the fact hes a teenager and wish he was small again.

meaniepants · 14/02/2010 19:37

Because only princesses like tea and phone conversations in peace sometimes????

If you say a whining child doesn't ever slightly bother you, you're talking out of your BigPants!

Bigpants1 · 14/02/2010 20:09

Oooh-MIAOW. Rather a Bigpants, than a meaniepants!
And, no, I didnt say whining doesnt ever bother me-of course it does. But, I got the sense from the OP, that it bothered her all the time. Sorry to upset you, you can get your claws back in now.

chegirlshadabloodynuff · 14/02/2010 20:14

Bigpants - I have news for you. They dont stop whining when you are on the phone when they get to 11. I can only have an unbroken conversation when all of mine are in bed or gone out. DCs 16, 6 & 2.

But at least the 16 year old can make me a cup of tea whilst he is whining.

Bigpants1 · 14/02/2010 20:28

lol-chegirl. Same here-my DCs are 15.5, 14, 11.5, 9.5, 6.5 &4.
Im still waiting for a cup of tea, but eldest will at least hoover the b/rooms for me-whilst whining!

ktbeau · 14/02/2010 21:32

lol at BigPants1 and meaniepants!!

I taught my little brother how to make me a cup of tea when he was 7 and I was 14

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