to consider turning down a job with more money simply because I'm happy enough where I am?

[MrsSeanBean]

In a nutshell - been offered new job about £250 per month more, fewer hours (24 instead of 28)

The money would be nice but not essential.

New job would give me more scope to use specialist abilities.

But.... I'm happy where I am and like the people and culture. People change I know, but it's a lovely environment and really friendly place, although I feel a bit frsutrated sometimes as work is more basic. Although it is nice to have zero stress and an 'easy life'.

(Oh, and am planning DC2 so would not excatly be ideal to be in new job a few months then announce PG.)

I'm finding this decision really tough. WWYD?

Immediate reaction was a yesss! SM. I was also excited when I first heard of the vacancy 'just up my street and good ££'.

It's just petered out to an 'Okay...' on reflection.

I've had all sors of discussions with myself about about 'what you want' maybe not necessarily being 'what you need'.

sorTs sorry, keyboard is broken.

Contentment is good, up to a point. If your job is rock solid and secure.

I personally think it is safer to move every few years, to keep your CV fresh. 10 years in a job does not add anything to your experience, if you already have been in that job for 5 years.

It is much more attractive to an employer to have been in a mix of organisations and acquired more skill sets with each move.

If your job is for life, of course, then feel free to disregard.

I need to take more of my own advice. I get very comfortable in my roles. And almost invariably stay too long. In hindsight, all my moves have been very necessary and beneficial to me, if only to my motivation and interest.

But you only need to consider this once your homelife has settled down. Not when you are about to try for a new baby!

It sounds as if there are a lot of pros to both your current job and the new one you have been offered - hence the dithering dilemma!

Spot on Bonsoir!

Can't you just hurry up and get pregnant? Then you won't care any more - you'll be so focused on DC2!

It's Valentine's Day - your DH will be all up for a long night

Well I could already be Bonsoir! DH is all out of patience with pro and con lists, he would definitely be up for more TTC!

I am trying to think in terms of risks and benefits.

Risk (of leaving) - stress / tiredness / unhappiness
Benefit - mental fulfilment / money (maybe not that much stress)

Risk (of staying) - regret over lost opportunity (using skills / financial)
Benefit - happiness / contentment / easy life

Oh are you actually using the job dilemma as a distraction from TTCing?!

You definitely sound as if you need a new life project - is it going to be the baby or the job?

If I were you I'd go and have a bath and slip into your négligée (IYSWIM)

Do what you want to do, if you really wanted to move, you would. I also think the stess of starting a new job then getting PG is alot, I'd suggest stay where you are. have DC2, then make the plans to move.

But, again, flip a coin, if the coin indicates to move jobs, and you then flip again (best of 3!) , you know that deep down you dont want to!