...to want to 'dump' my friends group because we have nothing in common?

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I'm 30 this year and it's provoked some serious life-evaluation. I used to have a really close knit group of friends at uni(nearly 10 years ago) and we all went our own way but keep in touch via email, FB etc (we're scattered all over the world). I met my DH who is 7 years older than me 5 years ago and we got married and had two boys in short order. I was accepted into 'his' friends group which is now the default 'our' group. My oldest son is almost 4, the younger is almost 1, I've been in a great but demanding job for 4 months, all good.

Except that I'm spending more and more time avoiding 'our' friends as I feel like we have less and less in common. We're the only parents of 2 kids, (and only 1 of about 3 couples of a group of 20 WITH kids). A lot of our friends are in couples but childfree. The problem is they always want to stay at home and talk about the same stuff and I want to be out enjoying life! I cannot face another evening where you can predict every conversation. DH is less bothered as he and his friends are roleplayers so always have a common thread. I don't have that (roleplayer widow).

So am I being unreasonable? Should I make more of an effort or just let it drift? I'm happy to socialise with DH, just less keen to do it alone!

RPGs: for the uninitiated (how I envy you) there are 3 main types:

online- Facebook has loads of these, like Facebook Wrestler, you create a wrestler, fight people online and create stories as if you were that wrestler.

tabletop- similar to online but you sit and play round a table, you have a Grand Master who tells the story and you all act as characters in it.

live action (also known as LARP)- you dress as your character and act in real time directed by a storyteller (ST), sometimes people go to events and pretend to be their character for whole weekends. In national games (yes there are some) there can be 100s of people.

It's a really close knit group but some games span the world.

In responses: The mummy friends is a possibility, I struggle to get out much in the week. Getting the roleplayers to babysit is also a plan!

inthesticks I don't have many friends of my own, that's the problem!

My DH is a LARPer. It's basically dressing up, drinking, fighting, drinking, campfires, singing and drinking. However saying that it is very family friendly- it's drinking not drunkenness- I have been to a few main events (1000s of people) with my two young dds.
You can wear what you want really; last year there was a group of killer clowns, one of whom was made up like Pennywise complete with horrid pointy teeth. My dd1 thought he was ace
OP if these roleplayers are anything like my DH's friends, they will on the whole be lovely people with no shame.

nanny It can't just be two of us, maybe I should start a LARP partner support group....

To be fair they are lovely people, I do tend to glaze over when a conversation starts 'remember when my character did XYZ'. I do lvoe them as people, just struggle to find conversational common ground!

Yes DH will relate some hilarious story of some in- character interaction or how he has accumulated X amount of points so he can do such-and-such, and I will nod, smile and agree!