DP and I have decided to get married, and I'm really very excited. We haven't told that many people - want to book it to avoid hassles - but two of the three people I've told have asked if I'm going to change our DS's name to DP's name.
Bit if background: DP and I were friends for 20 years and got together briefly at the end of 2008, a few months after he'd split up with his long-term girlfriend. The timing was off and we split up after a few weeks. Then I discovered I was pregnant with DS. DP completely freaked and I decided to go it alone, always telling DP he could be as involved as he wanted but I wasn't at any point going to take responsibility for him.
After a couple of months, DP had a complete turn around and became very involved. However, when DS was born, he had my surname as I had always planned. DP was fine with this - TBH (and at the risk of being flamed) it was too bad if he wasn't. Wanted DS to always have the stability of my name in case DP freaked out again.
My parents - particularly my dad - had issues with this but I told them DS was keeping my surname.
So, fast forward a year or so, DP and I are back together, we've bought a house and we've decided to get hitched. We're even talking about having another DC. And, yes, DC2 will have my surname as we don't want our DCs to have different surnames.
Am just surprised by people asking me why I'm not changing DS's name to DP's. I'm not changing my name to his, and DP's not changing his to mine, so why would we change DS's name? DP and I are equals in this, and my name is just as important as his. I do absolutely love him and am looking forward to being married to him. But AIBU to think that I shouldn't have to justify not changing my name or DS's name?
PS I know my parents are going to have a few things to say about it, as they made a few barbed comments to my sister when she didn't change her name to her hubby's.