in promising my dc's a trip to Burger King in the presence of other children?

[onthepier]

This was the other day when I picked the dc's up from school. They already knew we were going straight into town as I had things to do, but weren't happy about it! My friend next to me was laughing as she says hers react the same if it's town/appointments etc.

My youngest was complaining of being hungry so I said why didn't we go to Burger King first for early tea, then I get my things done. Their faces lit up at that, (was feeling quite hungry myself too)!

Of course my friend's children came out behind them and instantly started pestering their mum for Burger King too, "Pleeeease Mum, we can all go together, pleaaaaase!" Their mum wasn't best pleased, said no and that they needed to get home. She shot me a look as she left with them wailing and muttered, "Thanks for that ONTHEPIER!"

I felt awful, was I being unreasonable, wasn't really thinking!

Yanbu at all.

YANBU why were they whining so much. My boys might have asked and went "ohhhh!" but that would've been it. Instead of telling you off she should have told them to be quiet.

YANBU. She was BU to put any 'blame' on you - you're allowed to take your kids where you like and she can't censor your conversations!

No big deal at all - she sounds very silly to me.

Yanbu at all

Pfft. Sounds silly to me.

My chargers often hear from their friends / parents / nannies that their friends are doing X, Y and Z.

Often they ask me if we can do. If not, I say no we can't because ... but isn't so and so lucky - that would be lovely - we will go another time etc..

They are used to this so they have come to accept no is no and they don't ALWAYS get to do what they want to, and to accept what I tell them gracefully(ish)...

Nooooo YANBU!

I think it's pretty unanimous!

YADNBU.

(However, you are unreasonable to have suggested BK when you should have opted for the vastly superior MacDs!)

YANBU!!!!

She has to deal with what happens around her kids. She could say to them they will go when she has to do things in town too for example. But not your fault at all!

"accept what I tell them gracefully(ish)" haha thats funny, I can just imagine it

YANBU!! Not at all.

That mummy seriously needs to help her kids deal with disappointment!! I wonder how she would have coped with this;

A mum at our school said very loudly in the presence of many 4 and 5 year olds that "sorry but little bobby couldn't go to little billy's party because they were off to DISNEYLAND that weekend, weren't they, little bobby"

Cue lots of "can we go to Disneyland too mummyeeee?" and lots of seriously disgruntled mums!

My own DC4 was happy with a simple "no darling, we can't and anyway we have to go to the library, darling etc etc" and was happy with that because he knows sometimes that's just how life is-a bit disappointing but there's always something else to do that's fun

YANBU. It's not like you invited them along then their mum had to say no- you were talking about YOUR plans!

Yanbu
She is.

I don't think you were being unreasonable as such, but I wouldn't mention going for a treat in front of other kids if I knew it was unlikely they'd be allowed to go, it's just not necessary... sure kids need to learn to accept disappointment etc, but I don't think there's any need to do it when it can be avoided. LO's here get told no & to get over it too - so I'm not precious about what other people say in front of them (I wouldn't have been cross/said anything to you), just I avoid upsetting other peoples DC's when possible...

But that means you have you watch everything you say and life is too short to vet everything that comes out of your mouth, especially over something so little. Why should she have to? It's the other woman's job to parent her children not the op's.

YANBU but I have to admit sometimes (most of the times) if my friends tell their children they're having a treat in earshot of mine I do suddenly think "Oh God" but I normally just end up tagging along or saying "we'll do this instead". I'd never make a snide comment because why should somebody else not treat their kids because you don't want to treat yours.

Maybe you could have waited until she was out of earshot, but she is being unreasonable to react like that. For the sake of being devil's advocate though, maybe she was having a shitty day

fuck her! its burger king not bloody crack cocaine FFS

rofl @ porcamseria and imagining a scene "ok, but you can only have one hit of crack otherwise it will ruin your dinner"