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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to find another Nanny?

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CompletelyHackedOff · 11/02/2010 12:34

I have had a few issues with my nanny. She looks after my 4mo 3 days a week to give me a break. A few occasions she has helped herself to my expensive coffee, and has even pinched a biscuit or two (I'm sure). I can live with that though, because she is nice.

I have told her that I'm going to be weaning DD soon and would she mind helping with food preparation etc. I've explained that I want everything to be organic and cooked from scratch, absolutly no junk whatsoever. Straight after this conversation she took DD out to the park, we live in the city, so she has to go through some shops on the way, including McDonalds, which she went into WITH MY DD and bought a coffee. Now I know I should be grateful she bought her own instead of pinching mine, but to go in straight after we had had the weaning coversation she takes my DD into McDonalds and exposes her to all that crap, hardly the best example when I'm about to start her on solids is it?!

So I feel my nanny will never understand how important this is to me and maybe I should find some like minded? I'm furiuos with her, and not least because she left the empty cup under the push chair

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JaneS · 11/02/2010 13:35

This is a mickey take, right?

What really upsets me is when the nanny walks on my expensive carpet (I have asked her to stick to the lino in the kitchen) and feeds my daughter battery-farmed unicorn.

titchy · 11/02/2010 13:35

She'll be shagging your husband too, mark my words. Or is that in her job description - after all it would save you doing it! Sack the ungrateful bitch.

JaneS · 11/02/2010 13:38

Btw, seriously: DP and I live on rather less than two people's minimum wage (because I am a postgrad). I love good coffee, so my luxury is nice Waitrose coffee beans, which are probably cheap by your standards but by mine they are a nice treat.

They are what get offered to everyone from my mum to the man who comes in to fix the heating - why on earth would you grudge coffee to the woman who is looking after your children?!

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CompletelyHackedOff · 11/02/2010 13:42

I pay £60 for 500g of my coffee. THAT is why!

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RumourOfAHurricane · 11/02/2010 13:45

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ClaireyFairy82 · 11/02/2010 13:46

If you can afford to pay £60 for coffee you can afford to let her enjoy some! Why don't you take a break now and bugger off MN. You're clearly in need of a nap to restore your sanity.

GypsyMoth · 11/02/2010 13:46

i bet she pushs the pushchair whilst smoking too....

and uses your phone and computer for allsorts of inappropriate things...

you have more to worry about than a few coffee beans

what about your dd's wellbeing?

Pikelit · 11/02/2010 13:47

I'll just bet the nanny isn't on benefits. She's paid in cash because she's a damned furriner, over here to take good British jobs from decent British folk. Hence her appalling failure to Know Her Place by not drinking the Tradesperson's coffee.

JaneS · 11/02/2010 14:15

Ok, how much of your weekly budget is that £60 for 500g? And how much of that budget is the nanny paid? That's the real point, surely?

I spend 2.59 for 250g of coffee, but DP earns 50 quid a month over minimum wage, and I have a grant that is less than minimum wage. It just wouldn't occur to me to say that I wouldn't offer my expensive coffee to someone in my house. It does sound a bit as if you're not really struggling for the money, you just don't like the idea of your nanny having the same nice stuff as you?

GrimmaTheNome · 11/02/2010 14:26

Anyone admitting to buying Nescafe can expect no mercy from MN!

For the record, the first rule when hiring a nanny is to check that they are tea drinkers.

fillybuster · 11/02/2010 14:39

I'm going to score 1/10 for the original post, 0/10 for the thread title (nearly didn't bother opening it) and a full 9/10 for some of the responses.

Xenia a fictitious personality, ooojimaflip??? Still chortling...

To the OP - you may want to make sure you get your dc into elocution lessons pronto to make sure you counterbalance the impact of having a benefit-claimant carer. Don't want to affect the lo's chances of a good education and long term career by risking a regional or (worse) council accent, do you?

fanjolina · 11/02/2010 15:02

Ignore the flak you are getting. As a seasoned nanny employer, I can offer you advice.

To prevent the expensive coffee & biscuit atrocity, you need to incorporate one of these into your nanny's uniform. (She does have a uniform, doesn't she? Terribly common not to).

As for the McDonalds aberration, I suggest that you send the manager of this "food" establishment a photo of your nanny and request that he bar her. You may need to provide some sort of reason - if so, maybe you could allege she is a child snatcher? If she then tries to enter with your precious baby in tow, the police will IMMEDIATELY be called.

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CompletelyHackedOff · 11/02/2010 15:08

Some good suggestions - thank you.

In fact I'm sure I have spotted one of those masks in DH's wardrobe. Maybe he had the same idea...

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pigletmania · 11/02/2010 15:13

OP get a life! You are bonkers! Your weaning yoru dd at under 6 months , and you are worried about a little baby who has no concept of MacDs going into one with your nanny so for a coffee. Eventually your dd will be exposed to it thats life, you cannot wrap her in cotton wool.

frakkinaround · 11/02/2010 15:16

OP on the off chance you are real and not a troll - read the posts, then ask yourself if YABU.

If you still need clarification YES YABU.

Nanny didn't necessarily know it was your special expensive coffee. Tell her. She probably won't make the same mistake. If necessary hide it.

Coffee from McDs does not equal feeding your child junk. Buy her an AK cookbook, tell her you're fussy about food, if necessary put 'not feeding DD home-made organic food' into the contract as gross misconduct if it's REALLY that important to you. Tell her you want a food diary for DD and her to only ever feed DD stuff from the house which has been made from fresh from organic foodstuffs. Nanny will probably think you are barking, btw, and may decide that it's too much stress working for you.

I realise this is probably your first child and first nanny but YABVU if you're real.

LaurieFairyCake · 11/02/2010 15:16

It's a gimp mask in your dh's wardrobe - he's getting his kicks elsewhere

tis obvious.

fanjolina · 11/02/2010 15:25

probably with the nanny in the toilets at McDonalds LFC

LaurieFairyCake · 11/02/2010 15:26

lovelycoffee · 11/02/2010 15:47

You are kidding aren't you?? The expensive coffee is a nice touch - Kopi Luwak - made from coffee berries which have been eaten by and passed through the digestive tract of the Asian Palm Civet...

You must have time on your hands to make this stuff up

dawntigga · 11/02/2010 15:48

Nice Nestle drop though, que BNP drop.

And go...

FolDeRolTiggaxx

twoistwiceasfun · 11/02/2010 16:13

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CompletelyHackedOff · 11/02/2010 16:13

Not too much time....a quick google of expensive coffee and it's the first link

Will take all your tips on board for next time

Am feeling better now so can get up from my death bed and stop pratting around

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LifeOfKate · 11/02/2010 20:42

Fantastic

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