To think my midwife is trying to get rid of me

[fernie3]

My midwife is first of all a lovely, very friendly woman I have no problem with her as a person. She just seem confused pretty much all the time,she has been trying to get rid of me since booking in I think!.
first of all she seemed to nearly have a panic attacks when taking down details of past pregnancies, then she wanted to see me once a week from 5 weeks until the baby was born! - when I pointed out how long this was she went down to every two weeks until 20 weeks and then once a week. When she is taking my blood pressure she actually uses the words "oh dear" as shes taking it (it hasnt been that bad so I dont know why she is getting her knickers in a twist). She recently asked me to go and see the gp instead of her for a check as she wanted another opinion. When I got to the gp she blustered about how I shouldnt be there they dont see pregnanct women etc so I dont knwo why the midwife sent me!.

When I was at the gp my blood pressure was up quite alot and she told me that she had sent a message to the midwife to callme urgently about it (this was a few days ago now).I havent heard anything and when I try to call her theres no answer!

I am ALREADY supposed to be seen by a consultant but not for ages yet (23 weeks - I am only 15 weeks now!) so its not as if she is all alone.

really am i being unreasonable to wonder if she knows what shes doing? she doesnt seem to wnat anythign to do with me - and now I think she is avoiding me lol.Even though she was the one who arranged the incredible number of appointments anyway!

Is she a NHS mw?

Fyi,my pattern of appointments is;
Booking - 12 wks
Check - 16 wks
Anomaly Scan - 20 wks
Then ante-natal checks at; 28 wks, 34 wks, 36 wks, 38 wks, 40 wks.

Rather than her trying to dump you, I would try and dump her if I was you. She sounds very panicky. Perhaps there is another midwife on the same team who you could arrange to see instead? Is there any reason why you are a high risk and need to have so many appointments? I am categorised as high risk for various reasons and am having consultant-led care. I usually see someone about every 3 or 4 weeks. Also I go and also see the GP from time to time with any niggles I have. Am puzzled as to why you can't be seen by the GP. All sounds a bit odd.

hi yes she is an NHS midwife I have to have more regular checks because of problems in previous pregnancie. I thought that this many this early on was a little much as well, she insisted that it was needed and so I though i better go along with it actually the go seemed to agree so maybe she WAS right on that.

gp not go lol.
I am high risk because I had blood pressure problems and preeclampsia in previous pregnancies, I also had problems where I was admitted with tachycardia (dont know how to spell that) and a few other issues, baby always quite happy but I seem to suffer a bit!. My blood pressure was high at the initial appointment and in the past it has been very difficult to control with medication (especially the ones safe during pregnancy). I was expecting regular visits after the first half of pregnancy I was a little surprised they started so early.
I have no idea why I couldnt see the gp - she actually told me she was going to complain to the practice manager about my midwife sending me (not about me I hope!). It seems to be a big no-no for some reason.

That's weird about the GP. At our surgery if the m/w isn't available for an appt and it's needed at a given time (e.g. in last pregnancy to do the triple test) then you see the GP. I've seen one for a routine m/w appt, was no problem.

Perhaps they should only do it if there are no m/ws available though and that's why the GP got the hump? Possibly the m/w does it a lot and the GP is fed up of it?

Change your midwife. You need someone who will give you the support you need. I had to do this in my first pregnancy, as she was an airy-fairy type you kept losing my notes, missing appointments and being as helpful as a chocolate fireguard. The midwife I swopped to was great (and promptly booked me in for two things that I should have had but missed).

Bottom line is get the midwife you trust.