to assume that a comment dh made during a conversation was related to the conversation?

[issysmilkbottle]

I just said to dh that I was tired and was off to bed (it is past 11 and I have a 11 week old dd). He said it wasn't late and I said it was for me especially as dd has been Bf a lot today and took ages to go down tonight. He then said that he'd read an article today saying marriages breakdown when partners concentrate too much on the kids... Wtf????

I asked him what he meant by that, he said nothing... That it was random bit it seems so obviously not.....he had also just asked when were we going to nake love... I'm too shattered ffs!

Aibu to think he was having a dig?

Also, he s decided to sleep on sofa rather than wear a snore strip thing i bought... Tbh i dont care about him being on sofa as he's had a few cans tonight and fancy the bed to myself again....

oh i rely heavily on sky+!

Told dh that mn thinks he's being lazy etc so hopefully he'll step up now as he does refer to mn as the mum mafia and i genuinely think he's worried!!

Issy I have to admit that my dh is exactly like yours, he works 5 days a week 9-6 and apparently his days off are for him to relax. Meanwhile I'm supposed to be the maid, nanny, chef and all around sex slave. My lo's are 4 and 2 now and tbh it wasn't until I told him in no uncertain terms that my life would be easier and as an only child I've learned to be quite happy in my own company!

I'm not saying it was easy, I needed to regain my self-esteem and realise that I was worth it. I truly believe that some men don't realise how hard it is to raise a child. Esp when the mil is a house goddess who raised 5 children no problem

breathes

IMVHO, some men need to be told what to do, so ask him to take dd off your hands, tell him you need a lie in (feign sickness if you have to) explain that you are so tired because............. and ask him to help with the house. You need to explain that if he helped you in the house more, you'd have more energy at nights.

Oh and about that newspaper article, tell him about the one that says couples who share household duties have more sex!

There's a thread about that article. I've not read it - but I'm pretty sure it wasn't so much to do with newborns as older DCs.