Ignorant father / childs illness

[IanD]

Hi

My girlfrind has a 3 year old the problem is this, there is a court order for the father to collect his daughter on a tuesday for an overnight stop every other week, unfortunately this week his daughter has an ear infection sore throat and a cold, we took her to the doctors last night and she was given calpol with nurofen, now the father demanded he take his daughter for her stop over telling my girlfriend he'd call the police if she didnt let him take her, my girlfriend gave into this as she is terified the courts will be heavy handed with her, what are the guidelines for this situation? the father isnt putting the childs health first at all, he was told he'd have the time with her made up when she was feeling better, any advice please?

Thank you..

8 miles is not a long way, it's not like she was expected to get on a plane with an ear infection, or camping with pneumonia. Presumably the little girl was sent with the painkillers? I can't see how 8 miles in a car is 'not putting her health first' at all.

Unless there's some history we're not getting, I think it's absolutely part of shared parenting to share the times with illness. My daughter gets a bit clingy and wants me when she's sick, too, but I can't always be there, and it's better all round if she learns that Daddy is a comforting knowledgeable parent as well.

I can't be having with all this 'Dads aren't the same' nonsense. If we all encouraged Dads to be as hands on, they absolutely would be.

I know it's hard to let your daughter go when she's sick. I'm sure it's wrenching even when she's well. But yes, court orders apply all the time, because the point is that the child has two parents who take an active and comprehensive role in their life, and dealing with minor illnesses is part of that. Colds and ear infections, while painful, are routine childhood illnesses.