to be upset that I have only had one vcard congratulating me on the birth of my babies?

[Geepers]

I know IANBU, but can't really understand why the only card I have received since my twins were born 11 days ago came from my daughter's nursery staff.

None of my family, friends, or neighbours have sent a card. They were born prematurely at 23 weeks and my DH thinks it's not a 'congratulations' moment, but while my other four children will have a whole pile of cards each to look through when they are old enough, my twins will have only one card between them.

AIBU to think that now they are nearly two weeks old we'd have got cards by now if they were being sent

your boys are beautiful - huge congratulations

xx

I have a colleague who has recently had a new baby very early - I have sent a card, but thought long and hard about it as I did not want to inadvertently cause pain if her baby wasn't doing too well. It is hard for people who haven't been there to know what to do, it absolutely doesn't mean people don't care. Congratulations on your babies.

Print out this thread. so when they are older they will know that they had the power of MN willing them on

I'm sure the cards will follow when you bring those beautiful boys home.
CONGRATULATIONS x

Congratulations on your beautiful boys. Hope they continue to go from strength to strength.

x

Oh bless them - they are just gorgeous!!!

[/weepy and hormonal pregnant lady]

Just wanted to add my congratulations on your beautiful baby boys I have a little Joe of my own and your blog has made me all teary Wishing them and you all the best, hope you have them home soon

They are gorgeous boys - congratulations!

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful boys.

Your blog is wonderful. I loved your older boy's posts about seeing their brothers for the first time. Very very sweet.

Congratulations they are so lovely

YANBU your boys have been born just like any other baby and you deserve cards welcoming them to the world like you would for any other baby. I'm sure you're not alone in this happening though

Come and join us on the bliss forum too, there will be others who can relate to everything you are going through and will go through in the future

Congratulations on your beautiful boys

Congratulations!

Congratulations - just had a peek at your lovely boys on your blog!

I'm sure people aren't being intentionally hurtful- they just are unsure of what to do - do you have a close friend / family member who can put the word out that you would really like their birth recognised?

Congratulations from me too!!!

I love your blog - its a wonderful idea. Your boys are so so sweet

More congratulations here

A thought - have you sent out a birth announcement email? Might give people a nudge/remind them that you are celebrating the birth of two lovely boys

Just read your blog...small and perfect...

So big congratulations to you and your family...don't fret about the cards... people who have never experienced anything like this have no clue how to respond and its nobody's fault. As suggested above, print off this thread and show it to them when they are older...

Take care of everyone and yourself please...

Congratulations on the birth of your boys. Agree with other posters - people don't want to jinx things! Consider all these virtual cards, however, and hey - if you CAT one of us your address I'm sure you'd have cards up to your eyeballs before you could blink

Joe and Harry are both beautiful, and you can tell they have little personalities already. Best of luck to you all

Well done you for being Mummy to Joe and Harry

Definitely send out an e-mail announcing their arrival and be up-front about it being early days but that they are already a huge part of the lives of all your family.

I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Agree with deepdarkwood and SE13- Announce the birth and post them out and congrats will follow. My cousin's baby was very ill for a few weeks and nobody knew whether to send a card or not until she was better. A birth announcement card about your "healthy happy twins" should give everyone a sigh of releif and get the cards going.

However, I have also noticed that etiquette ain't what it used to be. Not one of my husband's family sent a card for our DS2, apart from MIL. We had one text and a Facebook comment. Not good enough from a big family!

Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful twins! xxxx

Just wanted to say, I understand, my DD2 was born at 32 weeks and spent a month in SCBU (with many problems as her birth weight was 2lbs and she developed NEC), I did get a few cards but from people who had visited the hospital to see her. My aunt I recall bought me a bottle of perfume which was a nice thought but I knew she had bought it as no one knew if DD2 would be ok.
However when she began to improve, then people felt it was appropriate to send cards.

I know it can hurt a little, but I am sure everyone is worried and probably don't understand the need for congrats when your going thru this.

Just give it some time, I remember my DD2's birth announcement went into the paper when she was 31 days old, as we knew she was out of the woods, then the cards arrived !