To be upset by this?

[Narketta]

DH has a friend from work we have been out with this friend and his DW on a couple of occassions. They know that I have PND as DH has had to arrange some of his shifts around my GP appointments and counselling.

Anyhow the last time we went out with them they were asking how I was and I told them I have good and bad days and that my moods are up and down but that DH is great on his days off from work, if I need a break I either go out for a walk alone or a long bath or he will take the DC out so that I get time to sort my head out.

The reason i'm so upset is that DH came home from work last night and said that he and his workmate had been talking and apparently this workmates DW has said that DH must be a saint to put up with me flying off the handle the way I do.

I obviously only know what i'm being told by DH but surely if she had said this maliciously then her DH wouldn't have repeated it to my DH, But i'm also completely peed off that DH was tactless enough to come home and tell me all this thinking that it wouldn't upset me.

I'm so and .

DH says that it wasn't meant in the way that i'm taking it so am I being paranoid?

your DH has been a bit silly to be honest - are you sure you haven't misunderstood as from what you have said there is no way they could have commented that you 'fly off the handle'

Defo haven't misunderstood, But the thing is I very rarely fly off the handle if anything I go quiet and distant DH can always tell when i'm having a bad day. I just feel unfairly judged... Ok DH's friend and his DW are entitled to their opinion as is anyone else but they don't know me, I've only met them 3 times!

I know I've just got to let it go but its bugging me.

things like this bug me too. try not to let it get to you - try and take comfort in the fact that (a)your dh misunderstood what they said (b) if he didnt then they don't have a bats clue about PND. i know its easy for me to say but i understand how these things can keep you awake at night. Be grateful for your DH who sounds lovely

Why would they think you fly off the handle? Do you think your husband has had conversations with his workmate where he's described arguments? Could your husband be the one who's accidentally given them the impression you fly off the handle?

This is the thing me and DH don't do shouting fly off the handle arguments. We used to before the DC came along but now we tend to talk about things that are bothering us before it gets to boiling point. So I really have no idea where this has come from.

it sounds to me maybe like your dh has embelished slightly along the way and given a distorted impression. Quite probably without intention or malice - booze and all that means things can be easily misconstrued

Sometimes people take from a comment what they will 'I have good and bad days and that my moods are up and down'...normal or shouty..who knows? ..why do you think DH didn't correct his friend?..do you think he probably thought nothing of it?..does he know you are upset?

Mumcentreplus DH probably thought nothing of it until I told him I was upset by it. But now he thinks i'm being over sensitive.
Maybe I am..Who knows!

I think if he mulls it over he may think differently..tbh I would not like strangers who hardly know me to think I was some random shouty woman who my DH was a saint to put up with! ...it would have me right pissed off i tell you!...if he imagined it was the other way around he would not be happy either!

here here mumcentreplus agree completely