She loves DD and DD adores her. DD is four and she is pretty full on so hard work. But i can't actually remember when my mother last babysat - we asked her to have DD for an HOUR yesterday because we didnt want to drag her around the supermarket but she ummed and ahhed and made it clear she didn't want to do it.
She is quite old, but she is fit.
She lives in the next street, shes a widow and doesn't have any social activities apart from bingo once a week with DD1.
Now i know it isn't an entitlement to have a GP babysit, but i can't understand it - surely she would welcome the time with DD. DP and I have been through a really tough time and we would love an evening out - just some time on our own. A couple of hours. We haven't been out together for well over a year, could even be two. I have given up asking her tbh but it does make me sad.
She is very good to us financially, and i am grateful for it - really i am. But tbh, id rather her babysat!!! She has plenty of money so its not like its a big deal to her - that sounds terribly ungrateful but its no effort.
I on the other hand am at her beck and call most times. She had a cold last week, DD2 was off school, sent home sick. Anyway, my mother rang - "oh, the dogs not been out for three days" "i'll have to take him out" knowing that of course i wouldnt want her walking the dog in the wet after just getting over a cold. I had a friend here visiting - i had to leave my DD with my friend while i went to walk my mums dog. I didnt mind - but then when i mentioned it to DP, he reminded me that i had taken the dog out two days previoius and that when he offered to walk the dog the next day she had already walked him. Then another time she buggered up her digibox and could i go and look at it - i was dishing up dinner - "oh but there is a film on channel five i wanted to watch" So, i dished up dinner, put mine in the oven - walked round, fixed the digibox - no problem, but i looked on the guide - the film was the exorcist - NO WAY would she have watched that!! Its just that when she wants something done, she wants it done NOW. We gave up our whole weekend three weeks ago trapsing around taking her to find a new TV. I don't mind doing any of this - she's my mother. My point being, i don't think it is too much to ask actually for her to babysit for a few hours once in a while.
DP and I were talking earlier - he said, i was going to book us a valentines meal, but we wont be able to find a sitter. DD is extremely shy wouldnt stay with anyone else - so it would be pants of us to do that, plus i dont want a stranger looking after my DD. I have no friends who would be in the position to do it either - I dont have any other family. ILs would love the chance to babysit but they live too far away.
I know i am being unreasonable but i just want a night out with my DP.