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to be annoyed dd's dad won't be coming until 6pm?

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StephysFamous · 07/02/2010 11:45

Yesterday was dd's birthday, her dad was unable to come see her as he had his stag weekend this weekend.
He has just phoned to say he's going home to have a shower and will be coming round about 6pm.
Apparently I'm being very unreasonable to think he should have planned his stag do on a weekend that isn't his dd's birthday?

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Veritythebrave · 07/02/2010 11:51

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kinnies · 07/02/2010 11:53

YANBU

I would be spitting blood!

Is he normaly such a selfish nob or is this a one off?

TottWriter · 07/02/2010 11:55

YANBU. Yes, it's a stag weekend, it only happens once per marriage, yada yada yada, but frankly, his daughter was there first. He should have planned around his existing child. It's not like it would have ruined his fun to have had the stag weeken a bit earlier or later.

And coming round so late is a bit much on top of that. Out of interest, how old is your DD?

PixieOnaLeaf · 07/02/2010 11:59

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StephysFamous · 07/02/2010 12:00

My DD turned 3 yesterday so she will be watching tv in her PJ's at 6pm. Of course he know's this.
His excuse for not being able to come on Friday was "It's an early flight to Belfast."
His early flight was 1pm, and the airport is 45mins away from the area we live in.

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TottWriter · 07/02/2010 12:25

That's shocking. I mean, if she was older then the prospect of staying up later wouldn't be so bad (though still rotten of him). As it is, it's just shameful. For pity's sake, going on a piss-up in Ireland should never take priority over your existing children's birthdays. She's still young enough that birthdays are very, very special, and he needs to be there for her.

And as for not coming over on Friday...

mummyofexcitedprincesses · 07/02/2010 12:53

What a shit. If he is like this now, I hope he doesn't get worse when he is married with a new family. Your poor DD, thank goodness she has you. xx

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StephysFamous · 07/02/2010 12:57

TottWriter - I've told him all of that and yet he thinks I'm blowing it out of proportion. I've told Dd that her Dad will be coming at 6pm, of course 3 year olds have no understanding of time so I keep getting "Is he coming yet?"
"What about now?" I could quite honestly strangle him.

mummyofexcitedprincesses - I dare him to get worse when he is married.

The funny thing is that he's not been like this since she was a tiny baby, he has the cheek to put is MySpace status to "See my princess tonight" Why he couldn't come now is beyond me.

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StephysFamous · 07/02/2010 13:34

Veritythebrave - I've got a good mind to hack his page so everyone knows exactly what he is like. Men like my dd's dad and your exh seem to be only bothered about how other people see them as a father not how their kids do.

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StephysFamous · 07/02/2010 21:05

Fucking twat that he is just texted me saying "Soz not been in touch, got headache. it ok if XXXX drops off pressie on way to work about half9? Will pick wee one up on fri at 12 as usual."

I feel like ringing him and telling him no it is not ok as I know is mrs-to-be will probably have something to say about what I told him earlier. Obviously I want dd to get her present, should I maybe tell him we went out and get her to leave present with neighbor?

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