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AIBU?

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to poke dh through the night for snoring?

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issysmilkbottle · 06/02/2010 08:44

dh thinks i'm a mean bitch, chipping away at him because i keep poking him etc for snoring through the night!

We currently share the room with dd (11 weeks) and so i cant just wear ear plugs plus at times its so loud its hard to settle dd when she wakes for a feed... Its sad but i am starting to look forward to the weekly night shift as its a quiet night in bed and sometimes lie here just wishing he'd go and sleep on the sofa!

He says i snore too and i prob do as i am asthmatic and have allergic rhinitis but i use sprays and take meds as and when i can and sleep with 4 pillows to keep my nose clear and dont mind being woken if i snore, i tell him to do that...

I've suggested he sees the gp/uses something but he wont.... What can i do? Should i just put up with it? It is very loud and non stop at times and doesnt matter if on back or side but is worse on back.... Aibu?

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issysmilkbottle · 07/02/2010 00:31

nothing i do works, i get moaned at for waking him! The cheek! Tonight i decided to ply him with guiness after work in the hope he falls asleep downstairs but he actually sais he might sleep downstairs as he's fed up with a blocked nose - he blames the room... So while he had a wee i quickly made up the sofa... He came down and said he only might to which i said, well i dont want you to be uncomfy, night, see you in morning!

Now, what to do tomorrow...

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GenevieveHawkings · 07/02/2010 00:38

My DH has snored for years and I badgered him to go to the doctors about it a few years back. He had various sprays (none worked) and eventually had an operation to correct a deviated septum.

He's still snoring away to this day.

I find he does it when he sleeps on his back so I just push him and no matter how deeply asleep he seems to be he always rolls onto his side and stops. It gives me enough respite to get back to sleep and peace reigns again - until he rolls onto his back again.

Unfortunately we haven't got a spare room for me to seek refuge in and I'm buggered if I'm about to go down on the settee!

I don't care if I have to push him 10 times a night - and he doesn't seem to care either.

It can get waring though...

hmc · 07/02/2010 00:42

Why don't you try sleeping separately? Increasingly I think this is the civilised way forward (however am somewhat biased as I would quite like h in a different solar system, never mind bedroom). I snore loudly according to dh - as someone else said, probably on account of perennial rhinitis. However the way h goes on you would think it was a malicious act on my part. I wouldn't mind - but talk about the kettle calling the pot black! I was preparing for take off yesterday once he got his nostrils in gear

FootStamper · 07/02/2010 01:04

YANBU - mine snores and I somestimes (when he has been drinking) spend half the night prodding him in te back to make him sleep on his side. He also will claim in the middle of the night that he isn't snoring when he is! I have told him that next time he argues back that I am going to call his mobile phone and leave him a voice mail message recording of his snoring!! Considering he never gets up in the night for our little DS (who is a TERRIBLE sleeper) it's a wonder I haven't poured a bucket of cold water over him in the early hours of a morning.

thelunar66 · 07/02/2010 01:10

Ah. Mine snores like a bastard. Hence the reason i'm posting on MN at this late hour!

Recorded him on my phone and he just laughed when he heard it

I don't see why i should be the one to move to spare room's cold bed when it's him causig the hassle either.

I feel like crying now coz i am knackered and I can hear the vibration now, through two closed doors

OP... i feel your pain

mathanxiety · 07/02/2010 06:33

It's cruel, no other word for it, to wake someone from their sleep night after night.

whomovedmychocolate · 07/02/2010 07:01

Put a pillow over his head. Muffles the sound and, if held on for long enough, eradicates the source of the problem

Seriously, I'm a kicker when DH doesn't respond to polite requests to "turn over and shut up"

WingedVictory · 07/02/2010 08:08

Two closed doors, thelunar66! Oh, no!

And it's amazing how children and other halves conspire in noise, isn't it?

wubblybubbly · 07/02/2010 08:19

YANBU. I used to do the stroking the arm, little kisses technique when I first got together with DH, it does work but it doesn't feel half as satisfying as giving him a swift kick or holding his nose til he stops

CaptainUnderpants · 07/02/2010 08:24

My DH is a snorer . He has started suing the nose strips , which has eased it except when he has had a belly full of beer ! He also says that he is actually having a better nights sleep as a result , whther thats me not having to poke him to stop snoring I don't know

I have been know to wear the strips , a ritual at nightto put each others strips on , who said romanace and lust was dead !

EssenceOfJack · 07/02/2010 09:06

DH is a snorer, if I am especially tired he volunteers to sleep on the sofa or spare room to give me a decent nights rest.
he is also easy to roll over if he is snoring in bed and doesn't mind it too much.

What you shouldn't do is pinch his nose while he is sleeping. I did this to DH once when we had just started going out and he tried to punch me in the face in his sleep as he dreamt he was under attack
Now if I do it, I make sure to duck first

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 07/02/2010 09:54

No - still letting my muscles recover from all that frantic dancing at yours! Hope all's good with you!

Loving the idea of recording the noise of snoring - may well do that next time before making kissy noises!

Blondeshavemorefun · 07/02/2010 14:24

mr blondes snores and sounds like a heffalump with toothache

generally a poke,me mumbling roll over etc stops him

he doesnt snore on his left side, but seems to like sleeping on his back, so often gets told to shut up=rollover

i have also recorded him on my phone, and when he heard it,he said it alsways sounds liuder on phones

DH says i snore, i told him to record me, and then we will talk about it

laloue · 07/02/2010 17:43

YANBU! DH has only one working nostril after an argument with a road years ago. His snoring goes from wiffly grunts to hippopotamus roar.I just stick my finger in his ear...then look innocently asleep. If that doesn't help then it's a very arsey " turn over NOW", escalating to shoving, elbowing or "accidentally" touching his feet (sends him loopy) if the hippo' turns up. The spray stuff helps if you just want to get off before he starts, but if he's disturbed by anything at 4 am then it's just two and a half hours of being mildly irritating until the alarm goes off. The compensation we settled for from the accident (hit and run) was supposed to cover my broken sleep, but I'm not sure there's a price you can put on a good night's kip.

Slambang · 07/02/2010 17:58

Dh snores. Definitely worse if he's had a drink so I feel justified in moaning at him if he drinks a bit too much.
My tactics include 1st - rolling over myself (which can sometimes make him turn over automatically); next - wake him gently and politely ask him to turn over; then - wake him a bit more 'energetically'; next - move to the other end of the bed (so top to tail) with a lot of huffing and puffing and perhaps a lighht being turned on; finally - build an extension so we will have a spare bedroom. Hooray!!

CarGirl · 07/02/2010 18:01

I've found a tactic that works well I cover his face with the duvet which stirs him enough to move and shut up and is less violent than the kicking him!

WingedVictory · 07/02/2010 18:25

I guess other people are inhibited about using ear plugs, too (I know DS tends to cry out in the night, and his loving father is unlikely to hear!).... sad, isn't it?

Mrsdoasyouwouldbedoneby · 07/02/2010 19:41

YANBU
DH, snores, laughs and cries out noooo in his sleep. The last time I tried to gently wake him so he stopped, he ROARED at me (he said he was fighting something off in his sleep...). I darn't do anything now. LOL

He says I snore. I at least do something about it. I realise my DH can't HELP having laughing fits, but I honestly think he could TRY not to laugh MORE when I tell him about it.

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issysmilkbottle · 07/02/2010 23:29

yay! Dh has agreed to try the nasal strips ans snooreeze. Guess it was my lack of concern when he said he might sleep on sofa again he's worried we'll lose the closeness so i said if we can sort the snoring we wont, if not i'm likely to kill through lack of sleep!

Am goimg to boots tomorrow so next battle is to hold him to his word!

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 07/02/2010 23:52

issy I'm really pleased that he's seen sense.

Even if they don't eliminate it they will probably help. DH uses strips and snoreeze and while we don't have silent nights we certainly have quieter ones and I get much more sleep and feel much less violent towards him! Some nights there is no snoring at all!

Fingers crossed for you!

WingedVictory · 08/02/2010 09:06

"he's worried we'll lose the closeness"

Now, why don't all DHs/DPs worry about this? It's sad that sleeping together can be such a rubbish part of a relationship!

Jux · 08/02/2010 09:24

When we first got married, dh snored for England! I used to just gently shake and whisper to him to turn over, gently pushing him at the same time. He would barely wake up, but turn over in his sleep - and stop snoring.

Like others, he always snored when he was on his back. He got so used to it that the first little shake would be enough to make him turn over.

To this day, he swears he doesn't snore!

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