to stay is hospital for a few days with a toddler at home??

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I will MISS HIM LIKE MAD!!!! But I can't help thinking it will help to get BF sorted and ensure baby is well (I have Step B)......

Or shall I get home and get on with it???

STAY IN. I cant say that enough, after my second I rushed home the same day, felt tired awful and didnt get any rest because peeople think once your home thats it back to normal. Took ages to get back to myself. After my third I stayed in 2 days and 2 nights, rested, the bleeding was alot less by the time I went home and I was more able to cope with things when I got home.
Thinfs didnt fall apart without me and my older children barely seemed to notice,seriously they dont fall apart after a coupld of days without you

Totally stay IN! Its the only time you will ever get for this. I stayed in 4 days when I had my DTs and left my DD1 at home. She visited, and I missed her like crazy but I also valued having just a tiny bit of time to physically get a little stronger. Also, it was important for me to have a little time to have these babies to myself, just to hold them and gaze. I never got that time again as it was a roller coaster once I was home.

Also, I felt I had to make more of DD1 when I got home and so couldn't be completely swoony with the new ones in front of her.

Take the time. Its nothing in the grand face of childhood.

And, if I ran the world............I would bring back a much longer hospital stay as LAW

In my grannies day it was 10 full days in BED after birth and I think, in some ways, that is a very healthy attitude.

oh it makes me weepy just thinking about it! DH isn't able to be at home next week either, thank-god for nanny and grandad! DS loves being with them......just feel guilty!

Is there anything I can do to ease the bleeding and get strong??

Umm, doesn't it depend on what it's like in the hospital?
I found it impossible to sleep in hospital, it was unbearably noisy and very hot, so planning to stay in and rest would have been a disaster for me, anyway.
sorry!

You can't make yourself recover quicker, but you can let yourself heal and know that, in the long run, this is the short cut.

Does if help if I say your DS won't grow up to remember this time? He will remember that you let him eat his tea in the bath or stay up late or ran in the sea too high and got wet trousers or got him a pet or read great stories to him. This.........it will disappear so fast for him. And you will benefit.

(unless its a noisy, hot hospital! )

I am hoping it will be a quiet weekend! Not sure what to do, I'm 3cm almost 4cm and having on off pains....want to get the 2hours recomended Antibiotics in, so don't want to leave it too late.....do I go and collect DS and have the afternoon together now or leave it a bit,or have him stay over at nannys tonight ???

I had the choice of coming home the day DD was born or staying in for a night. DS was 22 months and we had never been apart for a night.

I stayed in and loved having the special time with just DD and me. Was lucky that the hospital wasn't too hot

i would say come home unless you are not well after the birth and they want you to stay in?
but like someone mentioned maybe wear PJs for a couple of days so people can visually see that you are supposed to be resting.
i came home next day after my ds2 and it was fine, i was thinking b4 same like you that maybe it would be better to stay a couple of days but glad i came home quickly, there was really no disruption to my ds1 at all, and bf was going okay, both healthy so no reason to stay really. also i don't think they would have let us stay anyway, they didn't give the option just discharged..
just see how you feel after birth, you may be fine to come home? obviously if you need to stay then stay, and im sure your toddler will cope with it

See him for a bit this afternoon then let him stay over at your mums, one less thing to worry about! I eneded up in for 4 days second time round and ds1 had chicken pox so couldnt come any where near anyway........never thought i would miss him so much.
See how it goes, all will come together once new bub born!! Good luck!

It really depends what your hospital is like. Mine was as peaceful and relaxing as trying to sleep on the concourse of Kings Cross station. I also suspect that Kings Cross is cleaner and you can certainly get better food there.

If you have decent support at home my advice would be to get out of hospital ASAP.

moomonkey chicken pox! What timing!
LOL TheCrackFox "as peaceful and relaxing as trying to sleep on the concourse of Kings Cross station"

I have Group B Strep s0 I think they like to observe baby for 24hours anyway.

ooooo I am scared now!

See how you feel. Dont' plan to do anything.

My first was a traumatic 36 hour job and I was terrified after, didn't have a clue what to do etc. Could have done with staying in 10 days. 2nd time got to hospital with 4 mins to spare, easy birth and home within 6 hours. DD fed like a dream the minute she came out virtually and I missed my little boy at home. I was so excited about him meeting her, all the happy hormones meant I just wanted everyone to share her.

So from my experience, it really depends on the birth. Give yourself a break and go with the flow. You'll know whats best and right at the time.

Good luck.

Thanks taffetacat good advice....

Just getting a bit worried about tonight now. Mum and dad say they would rather sleep at their house so if I go into labour they will come and collect DS. But what if its 3am!!! Bless hin I would be quite sad if they did that! We have a spare room and the bed is made up AIBU??? They are odd sometimes.

Tell them that you dont want DS woken up in the night, so if its early enough they can take him to theirs and put him to bed there, but if its early hours then they will have to stay at yours at least tonight and take DS back to theirs in the morning!!
Good luck