to be a pit peeved with ds' nursery?

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Dropped him off this morning as usual - left him toddling over to get his brekkie as normal. I'd parked my car in front of the window as I normally and just have a little peek to make sure he's ok and I noticed the nursery nurse pouring him out shreddies (we had requested weetabix when he started) which isn't a huge deal as he has both at home, but then she sprinkled a heaped teaspoon of sugar on there!!

Now in the scheme of things this is obviously not a massive deal but I was a bit cross as when DD (now 6y) was there we had the sugar bowl discussion, and then again when DS started - i.e weetabix or shreddies if no weetabix but no sugar, totally unnecessary as far as I'm concerned. Nursery explained some parents have asked to have sugar on their children's cereal, which is fine for them and none of my business at all.

So I got to work and asked DH to ring nursery and have a word (I couldn't ring from work myself). They agreed no sugar for DS and weetabix or shreddies. The manager again reinforced this to me when I came to pick DS up after dinner. But this is the bit that gets my goat a bit - she said the nursery nurse was 'pretending' to put sugar on his cereal which she sometimes does when he asks for it, which I knew to be complete bollocks as I know I saw the sugar go on there and she had her back to DS so he couldn't see what she was doing anyway.

I just explained that I don't think extra sugar is necessary on breakfast and manager said it may be better to keep the sugar hidden from view from now on.

It just pisses me off that I know I'm being lied to and feel like I can't 100% trust them now! Or should I just relax!

There have been issues with DS pooing and it going unnoticed but these have been rare, I'm not so sure they are sticking to DS 'no meat' request which again isn't a huge deal but preferred veggie as they only buy cheapo nasty meat which I'm not keen on him having.

yanbu
....and he'll have a taste for it now too, so they've only made it harder for him and themselves.

YANBU to be a little upset.

But at home he knows he doesn't get sugar on his cereal, so he probably won't even ask.

A bit like sweeties at grannies. He will understand that what happens in one place doesn't necessarily happen at another place.

i can see how hard it would be for the nursery to dish out sugar for some children and not others though.

YANBU
I am really shocked that a nursery would put sugar on cereal. I have never seen sugar at DD nursery and it never occured to me that some parents might ask for sugar.
To put it on when you have asked them not to is unbelievable.
The next time you take him I would stay while they get his cereal and check they don't do it and make a subtle point of checking there is no sugar.

Thing I've found about this nursery though is if you don't speak to the manager (who is really nice and mucks in with the nursery nurses, does the meals sometimes etc etc) is that it seems to be only way to get the message cascaded to all staff, if you speak to one or two of them stuff just doesn't get passed around to the others in the room at all.

When I see them not all have arrived in iyswim, it's either first thing when there's only 2 or lunch when there's a different 2 as others will be with the nappers or have gone upstairs to preschool.

I'm not very good with dealing with situations like this but I did make it clear to the manager that I though adding sugar to cereal is completely unnecessary.

YANBU at all about being lied to. And I would make darned sure that they know you saw her put the sugar on

YANBU

I would be marginally more mad at being lied to, I would have to point out this way as a blatent lie and that it has left you less trusting - I bet she thought she would blag it hoping you had not seen as closely as you did. YANBU

I thought to let the lie go because the manager was so nice and she was probably either covering for the NN and a bit embarrassed about it herself or the NN has out and out lied and denied all knowledge to the manager. I just hate telling people that they are fibbing even when I know they are

yanbu

i am and that a nursery, obv oftsed registered is blantly lying and ignoring your requests

also giving sugar on kids cereal is TOTALLY uneccesary!!

let alone pretending to sprinkle it on - what for?

YANBU!
How dare they LIE to you?!

I know, I almost said why bother to pretend, a simple no will do and if DS takes offence then tough!