To wish that my mum could, just once, reassure me

[deliakate]

It seems that every single time I voice a concern to her, on any subject, she immediately takes my worry and makes it her own. Her reaction is "what? Really? Oh no. Oh, I'm so concerned about that now". Its ends up being that I have to back down and start telling her its nothing, please don't worry about it, and reassuring HER. Drives me mad. And it totally upsets me tbh. AIBU here?

yanbu - you could be me, mine is exactly the same, as well as anytime one of us is ill, so is she and obviously much,much worse!

Got to the point I don't tell her much these days

YANBU my mum is just the same and it makes me so so sad. The day after DD was born she sat on my hospital bed crying about how awful it was for her not to be able to be with DD. DD was in the baby unit and I was desperately some reassurance or love or support or, well, just a hug.

I'm afraid we have to learn to live with it