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Original poster

to be a bit peeved that DH is going on stag do on Mother's Day weekend?

20 replies

TheChicOfIt · 03/02/2010 13:14

He has just told me on the phone. I'm not furious or anything, just not ecstatic about it.

I know Mother's Day is totally commercialised, etc etc, but I don't have family nearby, so I never get the chance to have any time to myself. I had been secretly looking forward to a day of being pampered for a change.

Ds is only 19 months so it's not like he can exactly pop down to the kitchen and get me breakfast in bed.

Oh well, not much I can do about it.

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tegid · 03/02/2010 13:23

Might depend a bit on who the stag do is for, but he probably doesn't have a choice over the date of it. So, YAB a bit U.

But, YANBU to use this is as a reason to get an extra special weekend of pampering out of him the weekend after

Feierabend · 03/02/2010 13:24

YANBU. Stag dos should be abolished. I take it the idiot who's organising it doesn't have children?

PrivetDancer · 03/02/2010 13:25

a bit peeved INBU

you'll just have to have your 'day' on another weekend. It's not like it's a date he has any control over if it's not his stag do, I don't think I'd be too bothered. In fact I don't even know when mother's day is!

ShowOfHands · 03/02/2010 13:26

You sound like my MIL. She's very upset that dh is working mothers' day weekend.

OrmRenewed · 03/02/2010 13:26

I can understand you feeling peeved. But it's not his fault. If he has chosen to go somewhere on that date it would be a bit different, but I guess he didn't choose the date.

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TheChicOfIt · 03/02/2010 13:36

Yes you are right - it's not his fault and I am not upset at him.

ShowOfHands - I'm not "very upset" , and I don't care about the rest of the weekend - just the Sunday.

Actually the idiot organising it does have children but they live with the mother so it probably didn't occur to him.

I will use it as a bargaining tool next time I need to !

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cumbria81 · 03/02/2010 13:45

YABVU. Let him go on his stag do.

Feierabend · 03/02/2010 13:51

Well it should give you ammunition for at least a couple of years

Goodadvice1980 · 03/02/2010 13:54

Why are these do's all weekend now? What happened to a night out as the stag/hen do??

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TheChicOfIt · 03/02/2010 14:00

cumbria81 - I am just a bit peeved at the situation, not at him, and I would never dream about stopping him doing anything.

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skidoodle · 03/02/2010 14:02

move what you wanted to do for mothering sunday to another weekend?

2010aQuintessentialOdyssey · 03/02/2010 14:05

I understand you are peeved. But it could be worse, you could be ME.

Where I am, mothers day falls on valentines, which is incidentally also my birthday. My dh is going to be away in India for 2 weeks for work (and some cool motorbiking in the mountains) around that time.

So, In ONE go, dh is away for valentines, for mothersday and my birthday. Beat that one!

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TheChicOfIt · 03/02/2010 14:10

Oh 2010, that is rubbish .

Have you got any plans for that day with friends or anything?

I feel really guilty now for my minor peevement (yes I know it's not a word!) .

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skidoodle · 03/02/2010 14:33

must be great to get mothers' day and valentine's day over with on one day

bummer it has to be your birthday

i hope he will be back for pancake day. the best spring theme day

SuperSoph73 · 03/02/2010 14:34

I think YAB a little U as you aren't actually his mother are you (crosses fingers that the answer's no ).

ChippingIn · 03/02/2010 14:39

Nah you're not BU! But def claim your spoiling the weekend before & after

SuperSoph - nope, she's not his Mother, but it's his job to 'assist' their DS making a fuss of Mummy until he's old enough to do it himself - tis the law don't you know

UnquietDad · 03/02/2010 14:42

Well, he won't have chosen the date. And, to be fair, if the chap who organised it doesn't have children, he will think of it as a day when you sort out a card and maybe some flowers for your mum, which you don't actually have to be at home to do.

I once had to do something work-related on Mothering Sunday weekend. We just did the mum shenanigans the weekend after instead. It's not as if Mothering Sunday is like Christmas - it's a different weekend every year.

And the same happened with Fathers' Day for some reason one year, too.

I don't think we need to be too precious about it. Are people really so hung up on this "one special weekend"? Don't your children do special things the rest of the time?

2shoes · 03/02/2010 14:55

yabu
it is up to your child to spoil you when he is older , you are not your dh's mum

verytellytubby · 03/02/2010 15:13

I don't even know what date Mother's day is! I wouldn't care if DH went away for it. Have a nice lie-in and lunch the following weekend.

2010aQuintessentialOdyssey · 03/02/2010 15:36

TheChic, dont worry, I will be fine, I have invited 5 girlfriends for dinner at my house. (hopefully I can get the kids, 7 and 4 to go to sleep!!!)

I suggest you try do something nice!

I like the word "peevement"! Somebody should write a study of "The evolution of Language on online forums"

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