To not be able to stop crying today?

6 replies

mabble · 02/02/2010 18:01

My OH will be home soon and I'm having a bad day. It's would be my grandad's 90th birthday today (he died nearly 2 years ago) and as it says in the title I can't stop crying. I was really close to him I miss him so much.

I'm feeling rubbish anyway as I have a cold and have been suffering from a sinus headache for the last 3 days. As I am nearly 14 weeks pregnant I can't take anything more than paracetamol, which didn't work on Sunday so there is no point taking anymore. I have been off work today and yesterday because the headache has made me start to feel sick again so I couldn't face going into work.

My OH will understand why I'm upset but I feel like I don't want to tell him. I don't want him or my mum or the rest of the family to try and make me feel better. I want my grandad.

I'm sorry if I have depressed everyone reading this but I need to tell someone how I feel.

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activate · 02/02/2010 18:03

sometimes a day spent crying is cathartic

grief is a process

feeling ill is enough to sadden you when in early stages of preganancy - that and loss of a loved one

LilRedWG · 02/02/2010 18:04

Oh sweetheart, you are so not being unreasonable for being upset. Can you text OH and tell him how you are feeling and why. Explain in your text that you really don't want to talk but would love a hug and for him to run you a nice bubble bath (or whatever) when he gets in, but then just to be let to it.

I often have to tell DH that I'm upset because I want my Mum and Dad but that I really do not want to talk about it, just be looked after.

I hope you feel brighter tomorrow.

doesntplaywellwithothers · 02/02/2010 18:06

Oh, mabble, I'm really sorry you're feeling so awful. There's nothing I can say to make it better, but big hugs to you...try and do something nice for yourself this evening...a warm bath, comfort food...whatever would make you feel a little better.

Tamarto · 02/02/2010 18:06

So sorry you feel crap, but sometimes it does help.

Have you tried sticking your head under a towel with a big bowl of hot water, it can help with the sinus issue at least. x

Jamieandhismagictorch · 02/02/2010 18:06

You poor thing. It's really horrible. I too miss my nan, who died a couple of years ago, at 97. It's a very special relationship, when you are close to a grandparent.

Do you think it might help to write a letter to him, or perform a little ceremony, like lighting a candle in his memory ?

re : headaches -I get a lot of congestion headaches, and use this stick called For Head - it's looks a bit like a large lipsalve, and has menthol in it - you rub some on your forehead - really helps me !

kinnies · 02/02/2010 18:08

Hi,
Sorry youre feeling so crap.
Your GD must have been a special person and it's understandable you feel so low.
I'm 14+1 today and am getting more upset about stuff than I would normaly. I find its harder to put things to the back of my mind and get on with other things iykwim.
Dont tell your Mum if its not going to help.
Just try to chill with your Dh and chat with him.
Hope you feel better soon.

Flip