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AIBU?

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Original poster

to expect my DCs teacher not to chat to other parents before handing all the children over?

33 replies

LouMacca · 02/02/2010 16:17

I have just returned from picking up my DD and DS from school (same class).

It is cold, it is raining yet their teacher starts chatting to 2 of the parents who already have their children handed over just leaving my children and a couple of others standing behind her in the cold and rain!

Surely its not too much to ask that the teacher speaks to these parents after all the children have been handed over! Rant over.

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Hulababy · 02/02/2010 16:19

Is your child not allowed to just let the teacher know you are there, and go?

Can you politely interrupt and say your are taking then?

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 02/02/2010 16:21

OK, it's a looong time since I picked a child up from school, but I don't understand this "hand over" thing? In my day, they opened the doors, the kids ran out shouting "Hello Mummy!" (or whatever) and we all went home.

Kids don't melt in the rain, though.

fernie3 · 02/02/2010 16:22

It is a bit unreasonable but it depends how long. If it was 30 seconds then its not too bad but more than a few minutes and I would be getting restless. When parents want to talk to the teacher at my daughters school a teaching assistant takes over getting the others out which is fine.

fernie3 · 02/02/2010 16:23

They are not allowed to come out until the teacher sees a parent there, we are not allowed to go forward to them the child has to point us out first.

Original poster
LouMacca · 02/02/2010 16:36

The teacher brings the class out in a line and the children are handed over one-by-one when a parent is seen. As my children were at the back of the line they couldn't just tell the teacher that they had seen me.

It was starting to rain heavily and was already nearly 3.40 (pick-up is 3.30) when the class came out.

One parent started chatting to the teacher already holding the line up and then another parent started a conversation when the first parent walked away.

I did go up to the teacher and say excuse me Miss X I am taking DD and DS, she completely ignored me - obvioulsy because she was in mid-conversation! I then shouted that this is a ridiculous way to do things which she did hear (I was cold and soaked at this point)

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kinnies · 02/02/2010 16:40

Dont blame you for being

But you SHOUTED at her?!!! WTF

Tee2072 · 02/02/2010 16:43

Please, God, by the time my son goes to school this paranoia will be over and he can just come to meet me at the gate.

Otherwise I will go around the teacher and just get him.

FFS.

Original poster
LouMacca · 02/02/2010 16:44

Actually I didn't say I shouted a her. I said I shouted this is a ridiculous way to do things. She heard me but I certainly didn't shout directly to her.

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compo · 02/02/2010 16:46

I feel your pain
no matter what time I get there ds is always last to come out
I stand there trying to catch the teachers eye
it is very annoying, thanks god I work part time so he goes to aftersch club some nights

Tamarto · 02/02/2010 16:46

I don't blame you lou, it's a stupid way to do things and unfair on those who have to wait.

gingernutlover · 02/02/2010 16:47

unfortunatly that wont be the way she saw it OP

but I see your point

i have parents who will insist on talking to me whilst i dismiss children and I tell them to wait a minute while i check everyone leaves with the right adult, only a few mind.

compo · 02/02/2010 16:49

Tee2072 - lol no chance i'm afraid until they're in Juniors in my sch (yr 3)

londonone · 02/02/2010 16:50

Why not phrase it as "AIBU to expect other parents not to engage the teacher in conversation when she is trying to dismiss her class" . IME most teachers want the class gone as quickly as possible at the end of the day and it is the parents who approach the teacher wanting to have a word.

Comewhinewithme · 02/02/2010 16:50

My dd's teac her sent dd on an errand to deliver a flier to each classroom ,I have no problem with this except he did it when the bell went and didn't tell me where she was and I was stood in the pouring rain waiting for dd until he decided to tell me where she was.

Original poster
LouMacca · 02/02/2010 16:53

ginger - now i feel bad. I know its a two way thing and the parents should have waited to speak until every child is gone like I always do.

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timelordvictorious · 02/02/2010 16:53

And tomorrow your children will be known as the children with the crazy shouty mother.

Can see how it might be annoying, but just one of those things. Rain or not, your children were at the back of the queue, so you had to wait.

gingernutlover · 02/02/2010 16:56

and the teacher should have asked them to wait, but maybe she did and they ignored her and then another parent shouted at her .....

ah well at least you're home and in the dry now eh, just forget about it.

Original poster
LouMacca · 02/02/2010 16:58

timelord - can't think of a response to that!

No problem with children being at the back of the queue though.

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IncontinentiaBotox · 02/02/2010 17:02

timelord that's preposterous

of course her children won't be "known as the children with the crazy shouty mother" just because she expressed her (completely understandable) frustration once

most people - teachers included - are not that stupid or eager to label children

timelordvictorious · 02/02/2010 17:13

But other children are. (I speak as someone with a crazy shouty mother)

Sorry, I shall retreat. Just sounded to me like you overreacted slightly.

Mumcentreplus · 02/02/2010 17:16

Woah lady! that was a bit vicious..I know she irritated (I hate being ignored)...but shouting is not exactly a good example ...perhaps a gentle shove

kinnies · 02/02/2010 17:39

It is anoying (I have felt truly pissed off waiting in the rain for 10mins after kickout time) but shouting?!! What are you trying to teach your Dc?
You say you were not shouting at the teacher, but still...
YABVU

Veritythebrave · 02/02/2010 17:43

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Merle · 02/02/2010 17:47

That teacher will have been working with young children for 6+ hours today, with not much of a break. She makes (arguably) a minor error of judgement, by allowing her attention to be taken by another parent. You think it's reasonable to shout about her in the playground.

Wonderful. If you children behaved like that at school, they would be told off, YABU.

ReneRusso · 02/02/2010 17:50

YANBU. I would have got ratty too.

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