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To demand some neighbourly peace and quiet?!

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ShiriDoula · 02/02/2010 10:36

We live in a semi-detached house. our neighbours are two parents with two teenage kids.

If they're home- they're fighting. And when I say fight- I actually mean screaming at the top of their lungs at each other. It's in a foreign language so I don't know what they're actually fighting about (doesn't really matter, though)but it sounds like someone actually might pull a gun at some point and start shooting the place up (I kid you not!)

I wouldn't have mind it so much, it's just that it happens at odd hours- and for the past week they have just starting going at it at around 23:30 every single day. it of course wakes DS up (he's just over a year old), and it takes me forever to get him to go back to sleep- because they keep shouting at each other constantly. not to mention the fact that it's midnight and we usually sleep at hours like that, my husband works, and last night I was after a long and difficult labour and just wanted to get a good night's sleep, but couldn't!!!

DH said he's going over there to knock down their door and give them a piece of his mind, but I said they sound violent and I'm scared they might do something to him (I know it sounds illogical, but I can't help it).

We are the only ones hearing it, because our houses are on the end of the street. Our walls are really thick, but it sounds like they're standing right inside my bedroom, because the shouting is so loud!

We've spoken to our landlord, who suggested we write them a polite letter explaining that they're noisy and please stop doing it at late hours etc.

to cut a long story short- AM I BEING UNREASONABLE to demand some peace and quiet? and do I go abouts acheiving said peace and quiet? (I seriously thought about calling the police a couple of times, but I don't know if they will even come or regard my complaint!)

sorry it's such a long post. thank you for everyone reading this.

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ShiriDoula · 02/02/2010 10:39

oops..
"and do I go abouts"-->"and how do I...@

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cece · 02/02/2010 10:45

The police are powerless in this matter. If you want to make it official then you need to contact environmental health at your local council. However, I recommend you try to sort it out amiacably (sp) by talking to them.

Do you ever chat over the fence? Maybe mention it casually into conversation? If not a special trip to their house may be in order to ask them politely to keep it down...

fernie3 · 02/02/2010 10:50

they sound like our nieghbours, shouting swearing, screaming. My 5 year old asked me a few months ago what a "little ship" was (they man calls the kids nextdoor this). Weirdly they also have very loud sex and they have their bed right up against the wall the is next to our bedroom. If I were her I would not have him in the house let alone have sex with him. We have not said anything because the guy is HUGE and very scary - i was painting my front door last year and he walked out and kicked the paint over for no reason. I hate him and I feel sorry for the kids living there.
I could give you all sorts of advice about sorting it out (letters etc) but I know I am too much of a coward to do it myself!

ShiriDoula · 02/02/2010 11:25

thnx gals, so basically- there is NOTHING I can do about it?!

cece- we never talk over the fence. DH has helped them a lot when they moved (the moving truck put everything on their front lawn, and then it started raining heavily, so DH helped them getting everything inside quickly as possible), I went in later with a thermos with coffee in it and some sandwiches (they didn't have gas or electricity hooked up), but that was the last we've heard from them (other than the shouting).

and fernie3- what an awful, horrible man. Can't say I blame you for not doing anything about him- he sounds really scary!

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cece · 02/02/2010 11:52

we moved

AKMD · 02/02/2010 15:08

The only time the police would be interested is if you reported domestic violence. If you think that they are about to have a punch-up, I would call, if it's just shouting, I wouldn't.

I would sort this out by banging on the door next time this starts (preferably in dressing gown and slippers for dramatic effect) and politely askin them to keep it down. As the walls are thick they probably never hear you and so don't think that you can hear them.

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