to expect 43 yr old dh to be able to read to himself?

[TheChicOfIt]

Whenever he reads something, he has to read it aloud. He is doing it right now, and has been on and off for the past half hour. I think he thinks he is maybe not being as annoying as he is whispering, but I am going to have to go to bed to get away from it.

omg can totally undesrstand why you wangt to get away from him!! madly annoying!!

Oh, that would piss me off.

Nearly as bad as my DH who seems to be permanently reading my texts over my shoulder whilst crunching noisily on something.

Aargh!!

OP, do his lips move when he watches TV?

staple his lips together.

Or take a book and begin to read aloud - pref while his favourite programme is on tv -until he cracks. Then after he's finished screaming explain that that is how annoying he is, and if he doesn't stop it they will be surgically removing the reading material...

My DP reads out the paper in a "funny" voice, which spoils it for me when I want to read it myself.

Agree with HeQet - do it back. It's the only way.

what is a DP???? (I'm new AND french speaking )

OP is it because he thinks you want to hear it also or does he always do it?

Is he able to read silently to himself?

Or does he think you want to hear?

liege

Dear Partner

Hi all

Well I went to bed and then he came up and started talking to me. I had been asleep .

I don't know why he does it, but he does it all the time.

For example, if there was a magazine article and I handed it to him and said read that, he would read it aloud even though I have obviously just read it myself.

Also, he often reads a few words then really mumbles a few words really fast, then back to normal words. I've said to him that if he really must read out loud, at least read clearly!

He also eats and drinks really loudly - sometimes with a "smacking" noise.

I have a bit of a short fuse at the moment as ds has a cold and getting no sleep, plus a worrying health issue but it is so annoying!!

Have you tried saying to him - EVERY time he does it - "Why are you reading that out loud?"

Maybe by bringing it to his attention over and over and over again, he will learn to stop doing it!

And if he says it's because he thought you'd like to hear it, say "I don't want to hear it. I've read it / will read it myself / don't care about it." (works for me! )

My husband tries to talk to me when I've gone to bed. (normally when he's just in from the pub I must admit) I just pretend to be asleep. He gives up in the end.

Re the eating noisily - I assume you've already told him it's disgusting and he still does it? Next step is to turn up / on the tv to drown out the sound. Or you could say "Your meal sounds nice."

Or you could say what my dad said to me when I was a noisily eating kid. "You don't need to growl at it, it's already dead."

Get a dictaphone and record it. Then, next time he's doing it, turn the dictaphone onto 'play' and see if he can continue with that racket going on

Kill him.
You have been provoked beond reason.

Some people need to read aloud for the information to sink in I think. Isn't this a characteristic of an auditory learner? Maybe an extreme auditory learner. I learn this way and will confess to having to read stuff out loud to myself to really process it - particularly complex work related stuff. Luckily I work alone at home otherwise I would get all sorts of rude comments from colleagues about being "a bit of thicko" because my lips move when I read.

@ olderandwider :

liege there is a list of acronyms on the 'talk' 'home page' - this should give you most of the dp/dh/mil/dss etc...

"Or you could say what my dad said to me when I was a noisily eating kid. "You don't need to growl at it, it's already dead."

A multitude of thanks, HeQet!

I hope you get as much use out of it as my dad did.

I am now a very quiet eater.

@ mistlethrush :