To think that she could have phrased this better..

[PoodlesandDoodles]

I've recently had DD3 and struggled both physically and emotionally with BF - I did it whilst I was in hospital but had to give up for many reasons, not least that DD3 was losing a lot of weight and I had absolutely NO family support.

I'm struggling emotionally with the blame and the guilt (I'm blamed for her losing so much weight and I feel guilty that, of my 3 dds I've never managed to bf for longer than 10 days)...

We were visiting an elderly relative at the weekend - now I know that the elderly have a rather "unique" phraseology, but "Is she still on the tit?" seems to me to be a very crass way of asking anyone any question about the feeding of their child....

Of course, this followed the standard "Its a shame she wasn't a boy".

Sounds like a very nasty relative. Wouldnt be visiting her too often! The words she chooses to use are quite derogatory!

I wouldn't take offence at "on the tit" tbh - it might seem crass but just a bit old fashioned.
"Its a shame she wasn't a boy" is quite a different matter though ....

It is an awful turn of phrase, but then I don´t think it´s worth bothering about someone who says "It´s a shame she wasn´t a boy"

Must be a generational thing. When I told my nan I had had a boy she said - never mind you can have a girl next time and was also I didn't call him Fabarooni.