To think about matchmaking my children?

[lechemummy]

Ok, I have two children who are both at school, one has just started and one in juniors. I have never tried to make friendships for them but have noticed other mums doing it and wondering wether I should. I mean if I just let it happen organically are they missing out? TBH the whole thought of instigating friendships for them makes me feel uneasy. Opinions please.

I think they'll cope just fine without you.

I suppose I am worried because it might be the wrong choice and I can't really be arsed.

Although having said that it might be a good way to meet other mums. ....um again can I be bothered???

I would leave it a little while. If after a few weeks they are mentioning the same person/people a lot, maybe approach their parents to arrange a playdate to encourage the friendship?

I would steer clear of orchastrating a friendship from scratch though - you may end up inviting the child that your offspring really doesnt get on with!

That what I have done smokinaces, agree could end up like that!

Leave well alone. You can encourage by having a DC around to tea etc, but let them take the lead IMO. Parents can't control every aspect of their DC's lives.

I plan to send dd to brownies so she gets more opportunites to meet other children. Will possibly do swimming or pony riding as well if I can get MIL on side for that.
That is the sum total of my meddling however. I think it good to nurture and encourage friendships that you approve of but these must be instigated by the dc themselves.

Brownies etc is a good idea. Make sure they have plenty of opportunities for friendships, but there is a huge difference between encouraging and meddling.