really annoyed with DP over something relatively petty, but its playing on my mind.
Now, "my own class" i suppose, would be working class. My father was a railway worker, my mother a cleaner. My DP is a carpenter and I am a SAHM, I do have professional qualifications (PhD in Science). We live in a crappy but not rough part of a fairly affluent area - we are piss poor .
DD goes to a very good, catholic school which i guess most of the parents are what DP would term as middle class.
Me? I actually couldn't give a monkey's what "class" someone is from. I have friends who are working class, chavs (sorry), doctors, professors - i don't care what someone's background is, if i like them, i like them.
We are fairly insular and don't tend to socialise that much.
However, since DD started at her school i am associating with some of the mums and dads, and yes, they are very middle class in every cliched way you could imagine. But I like them!! One couple in particular, they are great, DD and their DD get on really well - now to me, they are very down to earth although i suppose they could be described as "upper middle class" (i dont want to say what they do as i think the mum comes on here and it would be obvious). They have never shown any indication that they look down their noses at me, and i have a highly tuned chip on my working class shoulder that notices this. DP however is dismissing them as "not his sort of people" and that he woudlnt get on with them because he is working class and they are so clearly not. They are not rich btw.
This has really annoyed me - firstly, because i like this couple and our children are good school friends and i would like to nurture the friendship. Secondly, and more importantly, i think it shows that DP actually doesn't hold himself in high esteem. Which is daft. Yes, he is not very academic but he is a fantastic carpenter and works his arse off on his business - in fact i dont think i know anyone who works so hard.
He was never like this with my university friends - some of them really were posh twats (but lovely anyway lol) he got on with them all really well - in fact out of all of my groups of friends they are the ones he got on with the most - they were all extremely down to earth - all PhD students, a couple of professors - but all mad as a box of frogs and could drink for England. (isn't that always the way)
So, whats with all this CLASS bollocks all of a sudden and that you are born into your class and then it is fixed. Don't know what that makes me then, as i say i may have been a railwaymans daughter, but my great grandfather was a lord chief justice and his family were extremely well to do (i keep hoping that some maiden aunt is going to pop their clogs leaving all their estates to me - i can but hope!). Because when i argued that my new friends might not be middle class by birth, but appear to be now - i say, he can't have it all ways.
Personally i think its all a big pile of bollocks and my DP is an inverse snob!