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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be considering booking into a hotel for a good nights sleep?

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dilemma456 · 31/01/2010 12:24

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rubyslippers · 31/01/2010 12:27

do it ...

Fruitysunshine · 31/01/2010 12:28

Do it. Let him see what you are putting up with. Good quality sleep is essential for well being and health.

pointydog · 31/01/2010 12:29

Not a bad idea.

Would it work if you went to sleep in dd's bed (if it's full size) and left her in bed with her dad?

A cheaper option which might work.

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dilemma456 · 31/01/2010 12:30

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Fluffyone · 31/01/2010 12:31

Do it.

juneybean · 31/01/2010 12:32

Oooo go on!!

larks35 · 31/01/2010 12:32

Do it. 2 nights might be better though for full benefit. If too pricey have you any mates with spare rooms? Friend of mine borrowed our spare room for same reason and few years ago.

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dilemma456 · 31/01/2010 12:37

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juneybean · 31/01/2010 12:38

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WhatNoLunchBreak · 31/01/2010 12:39

What about working with your DD so that you get a full night's sleep every night, instead of booking into an hotel?

It sounds like the reason you keep getting sleepless nights is because it doesn't take much to cave in to her wishes.

It's tough and hard work for a few nights - because you'll need to be strong and dedicated enough to keep putting her back to bed no matter what ... but it is worth it. It's worth it for you and your husband; but it's also worth it for your daughter, who is obviously not getting a good night's sleep either.

It doesn't make you a bad mother by putting your foot down ... and it's cheaper and longer-lasting than spending the night away from home.

This from someone who has been there ... early mornings (sometimes 3 am), sleepless nights, the lot.

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dilemma456 · 31/01/2010 13:40

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stillfrazzled · 31/01/2010 13:48

Dilemma, I don't know how you've coped - you've been amazing to have kept going so long.

You should absolutely go to a hotel for some sleep and a short term solution. But in the long term, had you considered trying a sleep expert? We did, for DS (granted he was far younger) and it worked.

Can tell you which one if you're interested.

hettie · 31/01/2010 13:50

mmme, you sound like you could do with some sleep help.... maybe put the money towards aprivate visit to a sleep clinic? You can get nhs referals (sounds like you would get one- how many times in a night is she up?) BUT the waiting time is usualy long. BUT YANBU

bluebell6 · 31/01/2010 13:51

Do it.
I did, when my DS was a 4mth old baby. DH agreed and I expressed milk for DS. Then I checked into a holiday inn at 5pm, had a bath, ate some nice food and slept from 6pm to 9am. I felt like a new women. It was the best thing I ever did and just knowing that I could do it again if I needed to helped me get through the first few months.

notanumber · 31/01/2010 13:54

dilemma, please call Milpond Sleep Clinc.

It's all done over the phone (for a comparable cost of a few nights in a hotel) and they really do work.

Just think...if you call them today you could all be getting a full eight hours every night within ten days.

karen2205 · 31/01/2010 14:04

If you're all sharing a bed, then how about (assuming there's space) buying a larger bed, so everyone's got enough space in it? It makes the short term easier, with your daughter sharing with you and helps long term, given your partner is also a restless sleeper.

feedtheyakandhewillscore · 31/01/2010 17:08

I've booked a hotel for next sat with 5 friends all o us have babies under 1- we're going for a meal then sleep!

CirrhosisByTheSea · 31/01/2010 17:45

feedtheyak, what a good idea!

Dilemma you are chronically sleep deprived, you poor thing.

If I were you I would certainly do this and get a good night's kip. If not too broke, why not make it a weekend in a nice hotel with pool etc?

Have you tried a star chart with your DD re the nights? I wish I'd tried one earlier with my ds, he really responded to it. He needs to earn a star each night in order to earn his pocket money on Saturday. We make the pocket money generous so that he is truly incentivised - he knows he can buy a star wars figure or something

Perhaps you could start with an immediate reward - tell her if she stays in her own bed all night, the sleep fairies (or whatever, dunno if she's a fairy kind of girl) will pay a visit and leave a special present for her.

At the moment the message to her is not clear enough - sometimes she's put back, sometimes she can stay with you - but it sounds always more or less accepted that she does this. Think you need to tell her clearly in both words and actions that you don't want this to happen any more.

parakeet · 31/01/2010 20:48

I would really recommend Christopher Green's Toddler Taming for his advice on sleep. It's not just for toddlers, it applies to older children too.

I'm afraid there he has no magic solution, just a combination of door wedges, putting them back to bed, and then physically stopping them getting out of their room by tying their door handle shut with a skipping rope, and then controlled crying if necessary.

I love this man because he has given me my life back. (After much agonising we used controlled crying on our 2-year-old - has given us our first unbroken nights in 12 months.)

Best of luck, whatever you go for.

PavlovtheCat · 31/01/2010 20:51

do you know how often i have contemplated doing this. not jst at night either...i have daydreamed of doing it in the day too...just booking in and going to sleep .

GoingRodeoBaby · 31/01/2010 20:51

DO IT!!!! I did. It was wonderful. I didn't feel stupid at all just incredibly smug after my 10 hour sleepathon.

snickersnack · 31/01/2010 20:51

Millpond can probably help. They sorted out my dd with minimal tears.
A hotel sounds like a good option. But do ask a friend. I wouldn't mind in the slightest if someone asked. In fact a good friend has a dd who is a truly horrible sleeper and every so often she asks to come and stay the night just to get a full 8 hours.

parakeet · 31/01/2010 20:53

Must just add - it only took two nights! And the second night she only cried for 5 minutes. (The first she cried for one hour, with me going in at regular intervals as per the instructions.)

icarriedawatermelon2 · 31/01/2010 20:57

She doesn't have Sleep apnea (spelling??) does she??? Does she ever snore??

peppapighastakenovermylife · 31/01/2010 21:33

Do it! And then you will hopefully be refreshed enough to try and work out how you are going to sort this out long term.

I have to say I misread your post at first and thought 4+3 meant 31 days old and she had 'only' slept through 12 times since birth

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