who is unreasonable, me, DP or work?

[yojojo]

I will be returning to work soon after maternity leave. I used to work 40 hours p/w, DP looked after our DC. Some shifts can be done at home, occasionally i would work until 10pm
DP found a full time job when i went on mat leave so now i will be returning to work for around 16 hours p/w.
I requested to work 2 evening shifts from home and one at the weekend when either DP or my parents could look after the DC. Work would prefer me to be full time but are happy for me to go P/T. They cant do the shifts I would like though and say they need me to do a shift in the office at least once every 2 weeks.
I understand the need for this and between me and work we will try to sort out a rota that works.
DP however thinks I should appeal against their decision and will accept nothing else other than the shifts i requested for flexible working.
I want to try and meet work halfway as they are nice people. DP thinks they are just out to screw us over and that i'm a walkover for wanting to compromise. Ireally don't want to appeal.
So, am i a walkover?are work being unreasonable?
Sorry its so long! i would be very grateful for any opinions

Your DP is being unreasonable. It sounds like your employers have done all they can to help, an you seem happy with that therefore it can only be him!

I think you DP is probably being unreasonable, if they have agreed to part time hours etc and also have offered quite generous working patterns etc I doubt they are just out to get you. Perhaps they really do need you in the office and really cant do the shifts you originally wanted.

Sounds like your employers are bending over backwards.

Your dh IBU

Your DP is being unreasonable.

Your employers are being very fair to you whilst still trying to make it work for their business, your DP is being totally unreasonable.

Your DP is being unreasonable. Tell him that if you appeal you might lose the whole thing. Your work could, after all, say nope youmust come back to the job and the hours you had before.

Then what will you do?

Def DH being unreasonable, wish my employers were as good as yours, there has to be some give and take.

Assuming your work have a good business reason for needing you in the office (and I bet they do) then there's no point you appealing. They are within their rights and it sounds like you accept that. I would point out to dh that it's your job and your time and you are happy.

There has to be some compromise between you and your employer, they sound very reasonable, your DP is being an ass

They are being lovely, they asked me to email some ideas over the weekend.
DPs main reason for being unhappy is that there is another girl who works entirely from home and he doesn't see why i cant do the same. I believe its because shes been there a lot longer than me and also was only taken on as a PT worker in the first place whereas i should be in full time. Also, its not really any of my business what someone else does.
If i appeal, who judges whether works decision was fair and what are the consequences of losing?(as i'm sure i would lose!)

thanks everyone by the way!

Your DP is being unreasonable and a bit of a wally tbh.

Your work are being more than reasonable. Worth bearing in mind that as a new mum you are entitled to request flexible working, not guaranteed it. Your work are within their rights to turn down your request completely, so I wouldn't rock the boat if I were you.

Agree with imgonnaliveforever.

They aren't obliged to give you anything other than your previous hours.

Your DP is being a twat