or rather, what sanction do you think might be reasonable

[TheFirstLady]

for a seven year old who refused to get off the computer at bedtime after repeated requests to do so, and then threw something at the parent making the request (not hard and didn't hurt) but still...

no pc the next nioght

no computer for a week

same as juney - no computer for a week - think 1 day is too short for a 7yr old.

yep, a week

and stick to it

i think a week is too long for a 7 yr old

No pc for at least a week.

Compromise between a week and a day - no pc 'til the end of the weekend?

Thanks. DH was the parent in question as it happens. He has grounded her for a week - ie no friends to play and not allowed to go play at friends' houses. I thought maybe removal of computer privileges for a few days might have been better, and it seems the consensus on here agrees, but too late to back down I suppose.

no computer until next week, and in the meantime a serious think about how the computer is used - sorry if i sound sanctimonious, but should he be in front of a screen just before bed. how about an hour after he comes in from school and that's your lot. curb it now before he's a teenagera! or reward good behaviour/ schoolwork/ books read with screen time. and to reinforce these fantastic good habits he needs lots of positive reinforcement and attention.

I'd have grounded if they go out a lot AND the no pc / wii / games consoles for a week here

but I am harsh wrt violence and I'm not ashamed to say so.

I'm probably a soft touch, but I would only stop the child from using the computer for one night.
I'd explain tomorrow morning that their behaviour was totally unacceptable and that they wouldn't be able to use the computer tomorrow night. I would then explain that if they apologised and accepted the consequences of their bad behavior without a fuss, they would be able to use the computer the following night, if not they would be without the computer for longer...

...and then I would give them a hug (but like I say, I'm soft )

no - I think until the end of the weekend would be too "easy" (I have a 6yr old and 9yr old who LOVE their computer time - but would cope fine until the end of the weekend ie wouldn't really be a punishment for them - a whole week then they'd actually learn something from it).

throwing stuff at a parent ?

waaaaaaaaaay unacceptable

and 7 is old enough to know that

I wouldn't do repeated requests either and I'd have said no pc for a week and possible grounding too, but then I'm evil quite strict.

Merrilyverily - she was playing with a friend (outdoors) after school and then went to Brownies after tea, so she hadn't been home, let alone on the computer until almost bedtime. Unfortunately, she spotted that DD1 had left it on - so she dived straight into Club Penguin when she should have been heading upstairs .
I agree in general though that she gets too fixated on the computer and that's why banning it would be a better punishment than stopping her from playing with her friends.
Should I ask DH to change her punishment? - I think that otherwise she will spend even more time on the computer this weekend instead of playing outdoors.

I'd make it no pc for a day, but then depriving my 6 year old for any longer than that would be more of a punishment for me. One day without would make my point perfectly well.

I also don't allow pc use between dinner time and bedtime, anyhow, since it leaves him too excitable.

I don't know if I'd ask dh to change the punishment, but I think I wouldn't let her on the computer if she is indoors at the weekend. How about taking her to the library on sat a.m. and finding some good books together; or teaching her how to do something new - like knit, or sew, or do some cooking together - i'd just steer clear of the computer.

We generally do some cooking together at the weekend - and as I will be out most of Saturday at a tutorial DH will be the one keeping her and her sisters occupied - some board games would be a good start and I should think a trip to the library will be on the agenda anyway, they all have books to bring back. She has dance classes in the afternoon anyway.
She doesn't spend vast amounts of time on the computer, in case anyone is getting the wrong impression, but she tends to be a bit obsessive when she is on it, which I don't think is healthy.

Thefirst, i kind of agree with your dh, i dont see the point of saying no pc tonight, but you can have a friend come to play instead.

Personally i just would have removed ALL privileges for 1 day.

Don't change punishment just say that pc is included in punishment as that is what the issue is anyway..so it is grounded with no pc, which is not unreasonable at all

No PC tomorrow because you can't let her use it unless you can be sure she will come off when asked to do so.