to be annoyed at my DH for saying he was gonna dose me up on Fluorexitine if this is what I'm gonna be like....

[Limara]

Background.. Came off Fluorexitine Boxing Day, feeling ok since although I have some health issues. Going for a scan for a suspected piturity tumor(I know they are not always fatal) but it's the worry of who'll look afer the kids blah blah. Also been lactating(poss side effect of Fluorexitine) but not taking them now because of this and I feel ok.. Have now had a really sore breast since New Years Day and now drs want to have a look at me next week. On top of that I need to go for a smear tomorrow and every six months because of abnormal cells. Also, my lovely next door neighbour told me last week she has breast cancer, I only found out because she rang me in tears asking me to pick her up from the shop.I am so upset, she is an angel and her and her family are wonderful.. I don't want to feel sorry for myself and I'm sure I'm gonna be fine but I think his comment is SHIT

standard mumsnet answer #1

He is being a twat

sounds like you are having a crap time - chin up and take care of yourself

What's fluorexitine?

Sorry if I'm being thick

I'm sat here completely gobsmacked at his comment.... I can't talk to him.

Gonna sound like a Martyre now but I work(only 15 and half hrs), do ALL the housework, ALL the ironing, shopping, emptying the dishwasher(I know I'm lucky to have one) sorting the kids out tho' DH does put DD to bed sometimes, sort out the bills blah blah. On top of that because I'm here in the morning and after school I do the bloody out of school activity crap like Brownies and plays with mates. Oh, and listen to the kids bicker, bicker, bicker and fight with each other at the breakfast table while I'm trying to get myself off to work!
My DS YR8, told me the other night he wanted me dead and he hated me(standard op from a pre-teen) when I asked him to clear out the old sandwiches from his school bag and sort out his books for the first time ie ONLY pack the books you need for that day. The SENCO recommended this to try and help with his organisation skills as he is unable to remember small things like pens and pencils and remembering he has detention for his bad behaviour!

DH told me the other day when he took DD(7yrs) shoe shopping, that it was awful as she was trying all the bloody shoes on! Well try sodding 12yrs of it!

MrsSawdust- Anti depressants..

It's an antidepressant.

So he thinks the answer to a suspected pituitry tumour is... antidepressants? Is he a bell end?

Have you pointed out to him that this reaction to your health problems has reduced his chances of having sex in the next decade to zero?

He'll be lucky to survive the night with LEGS!

What I'm trying to say is that I think I manage well considering all the crap stuff life brings you know?

I do think though, the AD's masked my resentment and I was tring to stand up for myself tonight.

MadamDeathstare, never heard of Paroxetene , they any good and do they differ than fluoxetine do you know?

He sounds like an insensetive oaf. You sound very, very fed up with your life (I am totally fed up with mine as well but won't go into that now). I have had times when I have vented and raged at DH and got nowhere. Then a while ago we started talking properly about how we both felt. How fed up I felt at being the SAHM parent who always seems to draw the short straw when it comes to parenting tasks when there are 2 parents. I told DH that I knew it was unfair of me but I resented him for not having to deal with all the day to day shit with the DC's like I do (today I literally had to pick up DS's shit off the floor as despite being potty trained the last 2 days he has decided to go back to doing it in his pants).

For the first time i think I actually got through to DH. He realised i was not just a moany old cow, that i was actually really really unhappy and fed up. And since then things have improved between us a lot.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you need to talk to your DH but in a way that he can understand how you are really feeling deep down inside. I realised I had just been moaning and whinging to DH and it was only when i really properly articulated exactly how i was feeling and why that i actually got through to him and he has been really good since then. I had a rant today about DS's poos and DH just stood there and listened and then gave me a big hug.

wanttostartafresh, I've been where you are right now, hang fire just got to go give DD a bedtime kiss (so late I know but its the drama of it all tonight)!

its fluoxetine...

and it was a twatty comment but maybe he is stressed too

also I hope you haven't just come off them cold turkey

It is a twatty comment but sometimes people say twatty things but that does not represent them as a whole.

Living with someone who has a mental illness can be very hard. Dp has snapped before at me that I need more tablets. Maybe this is not the case for you but I can be a bloody nightmare.

Of course he may be a twat all of the time, in which case ignore me and tell him to fuck off.

Wastwinsetandpearls, your dead right in what you say.I do have a tendancy to be low but I'm on the ball with the house duties, my job (not so much with my DS)and things in general. That's prob why I resent him not doing the minimalist stuff and tutting at things like feeding the cat(his sisters cat).I was told unless I had it, it would be put down

Wev'e just had a chat and he has agreed to; do the ironing, feed the cat, empty the dishwasher and get DS up in the morning! ha ha ha ha. Yeah right! I give it 1/2 weeks then it will slip away prob but I will look at it like I'm on holiday for 2 weeks

I am glad you have had a chat, having found out more I do think he is erring on the side of being a twat. My dp has his moments but runs our home almost single handed.

wanttostartafresh, talking helps definately. We resolve stuff by talking but things slowing slip back to how they were I reminded him of his promise to get DS up in the morning and he said he couldn't do it because he'd be late. I told him i'd be late too and I think the penny dropped you know?

Limara I think that's a result . Don't let it slip away

Wastwinsetandpearls 'twat' I love that word don't you?

Thanks guys. It helps to talk to you lot. Off to hunt for chocolate and general crapness followed by a nice cup of earl grey yum yum. I've got earl grey tea bags in their own individualy little silk bags, how fab/weird is that! Posh eh? christmas pressy.