Would you book time off work

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To go to a funeral even though you have never met the person who died?

AIBU to think it's a bit unnecessary?

Is it to support a bereaved person?

Probably not unless it was a relative of my dh. I think it is U.

Surely it's up to them to decide what to do with their leave time?

They clearly shouldn't get compassionate leave but I can't see what's wrong with booking time off. Presumable it's to support partner / family member / friend who did know the person who died?

I think it probably is, U.

Unless they are accompanying someone who needs their support.

I don't get people who go to the funerals of folk they've never even met, it's odd. Funerals are to be avoided unless you really, really have to go to one.

I'm with Armadillo on this. It's their leave time,their choice and their business and theirs alone.

Not unreasonable to book leave- if they tried to get compassionate leave, that is a different matter.

It depends. Some random person of course not, but a friends parent or sibling then of course.

Funerals are usually arranged at short notice so, if you work as part of a team, someone has to cover you while you're not there and that's a pain. If not then as others have said it's up to them, I guess. Compassionate leave is different and probably wouldn't be granted in this instance?

I am curious to know what the circumstances are, but I don't think it should matter to anyone else why they are taking annual leave.

I did this to support a good friend who's dad died. I had never met him, but friend has had loads of bad luck recently and him and his mum needed the support. The whole service was more emotional for me then any of the family funerals I have been to, and friend was really grateful we came.

I think they should be able to take leave when they want.

If it's normal annual leave then I don't see what difference it makes if it's booked for funeral of Princess Di or a day trip to Bognor.
I don't think someone should get compassionate leave for funeral of someone they never met eg princess Di, but with annual leave up to person what they do inside the annual leave regulations.

I went to the funeral of someone I had never met - the wife of my sort of uncle (it's complex, he is really related, but was brought up by my great aunt, and spent a lot of time with dad when they were growing up). Their only daughter died suddenly, overseas, a couple of years ago, and he had been nursing his wife for 10 years - so he'd go round to my parents sometimes to pass on the family photos and stuff he had to me.

When his wife died, I knew that our family was all the family he had left, and as they had been isolated for so long there wouldn't be many people there - so I went. He really appreciated it

In some jobs you have to plan ahead for when you take your leave because as someone said working part of a team leaves some one to pick up the pieces.

However as this doesn't count as a compasionate leave the person who wants time off should be able to get emergency leave. That clearly is your annual leave time for occasions you obviously couldn't forsee and plan for.

When Princess Diana died I was working in London and everything closed for the whole morning, whether you liked it or not! I had to go to work at 2pm that day...weird.

I meant it was a weird day..I loved Princess Di !

Yeah - it is up to them what they do with their leave time. [BLUSH]

I just find the principle odd. Maybe mentioning the work thing was wrong. What I mean is - I think it's a bit odd to go to the funeral of a person you haven't met. In this case it's the son of the cousin of the father of her husband. Found out about the death at another funeral and decided to go.

Is that a tenuous link, or what?!

I think some people are professional funeral goers though. (not suggesting in your circs!)

I just don't get why you would go to a funeral if you really didn't have to.

Okay, well THAT's a bit convoluted.