To spend less brain time thinking about pregnancy number two?

[LittleOneMum]

OK, here goes. I have one DS (2) and am currently 25 weeks pg with DD.

Got a right earful from my Mum last night because apparently I am "not sharing my pregnancy enough with her" this time round, i.e. not calling every two minutes with every twinge, movement, describing clothes I have bought for DD, emailing every scan photo the moment I come out of the hospital etc.

it's true to say that first time round I was much more 'sharing' but the truth is that I don't want to exclude her, I just am really busy at work and with my toddler and I just have less brain space to devote to letting everyone (well my family) know about every tiny detail this time round - it's just not the voyage of discovery it was last time. I do send her pics, and tell her things...

My Mum thinks this is abnormal and swears to me that all her friends daughters who are on their second pgs ring their mothers every night and skype them and spend all their time discussing it with them just like the first.

AARGH. I have a busy professional life and a toddler and husband and friends - and yes I am really excited about my DD but frankly I don't have the time/inclination to 'share' more than I do. Yes, I have bought some pink things, and no I didn't call my Mum and tell her all about them - maybe deep in my heart I was keeping it to myself but I don't think so.

It makes me feel angry and like 'sharing' even less frankly. AIBU?

She lives abroad by the way so it is harder for her to pop round etc

Yanbu at all.

However, it may be because she is far away and is feeling it more now you are pg again?

I am pg with number 2 and barely give the poor wee thing a second thought- sounds perfectly normal to me!

I think you are both being a little BU and I can see both sides. Can you compromise a bit? She must be hating being so far away and maybe feels jealous and left out when her friends are all showing off going on about their daughters pregnancies. Cut her some slack but tell her things are different this time due to XYZ but when you do have baby things to tell her, indulge her.

Yanbu, I'm pregnant with DD2 now and it's only now the birth is drawing near that I'm giving her much thought at all, and most of the time I expend energy trying not to think about it! Agree with nicky that it's probably because she's further away though.

Bless you, I'm just grateful to hear that it's normal to think less about the pregnancy second time round. I will do my best to indulge her as much as I can though. I do text and I do call as soon as something important happens (like a scan) but I am having (touch wood) quite an easy pregnancy and there doesn't seem much to tell (sigh). Will do more.