To want my lovely mum to stop interfering

[dilemma456]

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That would drive me bonkers! She has serious control issues, fair enough to be excited for you but to think that she needs to decide how you should decorate and where the furniture should go isn't normal.

Perhaps you could ask her to sort something out that you don't mind her doing and then in an assertive yet kind manner tell her that you would like to choose the decor etc for your home. Just say "I'm not sure our tastes are quite the same mum" or something. Or perhaps ask her to help you make some curtains once you've chosen the material. I'm sure that as long as she's helping in some way, she'll be happy.

What about if she makes some cakes and pizzas or something for moving in day and soets out tea/coffee/milk etc for the other end once you're there. Removal men are always glad of food and hot drinks!

She is truly bonkers. Control issues. I'd channel her in a positive way - make her responsible for something on the day which is really helpful, like tea for the removal men, making sure that everything is tidy when you leave the old house, ensuring that someone knows where the kettle has been packed, that sort of thing.

Certainly sounds like she needs a project! I agree, giving her something specific to do might get her off your case a bit. If it doesn't, you might have to be a bit more direct in a very nice way of course!

Alternatively, go round to her house and start re-arranging the furniture and slarting paint samples on the walls - see if she gets the hint

Crikey! Your mother - as much as you obviously love her - is living vicariously here, and boundaries are being violated all over the place.

Really? I'd be loving, but direct. No beating about the bush on this one.