to think asking me and DD2 to wait outside a pub whilst he has a drink with his mates...

[ElenorRigby]

...is taking the mick?
DP had an exam at uni today.
We had arranged for me to go pick him up at noon from uni as we had to get things done by 3pm this afternoon.
I get a txt a couple minutes before noon saying he had gone for a drink. I had already set off and was about 2 minutes away from the uni.
I called back saying I was nearly there, we had things to do and asked did he want me and DD to sit outside the pub waiting for him to finish his drink. He hmmed and harred and said what could he do. I said fine, make your own way home.

So AIBU?
He thinks Im being mean for not wanting him to have drink after a tough exam.

Sounds like a bit of miscommunication tbh. He's not unreasonable to want to go for a drink after his exam, but was a bit stupid to agree to do errands with you before 3pm and get picked up at 12 noon if that's what he wanted to do. Maybe it was a last-minute thing. I know it's less acceptable to do that sort of thing when you've got children but if he's normally a good guy then maybe cut him a bit of slack? YANBU to not wait outside the pub though. I would have left him to it too - and expected him home MUCH later in a sorry state.

thanks emsyj...
thing is this comes on the heels of DP going missing with his mates on monday night. He had an exam monday too, came in totally blasted and spent most of yesterday recovering, whilst I as was at work. Came home and nothing had been done all day.
Today the landlord is sending someone round to inspect the place, we were to clean up together.

Missing cleaning duty is serious I think - I would be at being left to do it and know what you mean as DH always finds something urgent to do when I ask him to help me clean. As a one-off it would be okay, but if this is a week-long student style free for all, not really on. YANBU.

I was all for cutting him a bit of slack too - until I read about Monday's episode.

Clearly you have three children in your house.

I agree with Pikelit. Not on when he knows you're having an inspection and should be helping you clean up.