Am regular, have name changed as I know a couple of people in RL and don't really want them to know this sort of stuff.
Bit of background...
DH and I have been together for about 8 yrs, married for 6, have a 2 yo DD with another on the way (am 35 weeks pg, so quite far gone!). I'm a SAHM, DH was made redundant from v stressful, highly paid job about a year ago...has tried to find work since, not been successful and now has decided to start up his own business, which I fully support him in. I am absolutely sure it is the right thing for him to do, and have every faith that he will make a real success of it. We're still pretty financially secure - have a small mortgage on our own house and a mortgage free flat which we rent out, plus some other income. This has mainly been achieved through fairly substantial legacies from my side of the family and DH's very hard work in the past. I realise we're very lucky in this, and really hope the thread does not kick off because I have mentioned these circumstances!
Thee problem I have is that I am becoming increasingly pissed of with DH doing so little to help, especially when I am at such a late stage of my pregnancy. The only things he does with DD is to give her a bath and occasionally give her breakfast - apart from that, nada. He has been in bed since Saturday night, complaining of a headache, but refusing to see a doctor. So I have even had to do bathtime for the last few nights.
He will also not really help around the house - occasionally empty or fill the dishwasher, occasionally put the washing away, but bugger all else. He is very good at complaining that the house isn't cleaned to his exacting standards though - making comments about cobwebs, or if something is a little bit messy. Now, our house is pretty fucking immaculate most of the time. BUT, I am heavily pregnant and have a very active toddler to keep entertained. Oh, he got rid of our previous cleaner (who I paid for) because she wasn't doing a good enough job!
Bearing in mind he hasn't worked for the best part of a year, this is pretty piss poor, no? He refuses to put DD to bed (I am the only person to have ever done so), and this is a big concern with DC2 on the way. He has never seen to her when she has woken during the night. He's obviously going to start getting very busy with his new business and I am now thinking, shit, he's going to be even more crap and wtf am I going to do with no help from him, no family locally?
I know some of this is my hormones, but it is pretty rubbish. I am also feeling pretty shit off from him - he rarely displays signs of affection towards me and will never kiss or cuddle me. We probably have sex about once a week, but it's not that great tbh (used to be fantastic).
I am now blubbing away, which I hate as DD wonders what the heck is up with me.
Sorry this is so long, thank you if you have managed to make sense of my ramblings.