to travel this far on my own at 37 and half weeks pregnant?

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

I have a hard lump in my breast and I've finally got my appointment at a hospital 70 miles away to get it checked out.

DH's work won't let him have time off to come with me as he's had to have time off a few times this pregnancy when I've been rushed into hospital- baby's had a few problems.

He wants my mum to go with me but my mum is babysitting my sister's kids while sister works so she can't.

There is a hospital two minutes from our door and I am going to another hospital so I'm safe either end IYSWIM.

I will be getting taxi, train, taxi and then the same back. The train is 1 hour and 15 minutes.

I have bad SPD so will be on crutches and there is a risk that baby will come early (according to consultant). So DH is very stressed at the idea of me going alone.

I think he's willing to send just about anyone with me but I feel it is a very personal thing and I don't want his sister/cousin to come with me.

I think the chances of her coming on that specific day are minimal.

So who is being unreasonable?

Yanbu.

If you did go into labour, you can still get to the hospital, even if it means by ambulance.

Not ideal, but it is important.

Hope it goes okay and your baby stays out for you.

Do you have a friend who could drive you? I would take a day off work to drive a friend to hospital, especially if she was heavily pregnant and on crutches. Feel a bit at the thought of you struggling on all that transport on crutches with a big bump.

I can understand why your dh is worried. If his sister/cousin comes with you, they don't actually have to come into the appointment with you, they can just wait outside. You don't even have to tell them what it's for if you don't want to.

belgo makes a good point that you don't have to tell them what the appt is for. You could even tell a whopping fib and say it's pregnancy-related. I would be happy to accompany someone without them telling me what the appt was for if they said they'd rather not tell me about it.

Agree with belgo, don't go on your own. It will help to have someone around to keep your mind of the thing (or as I was told when faced by simmilar dilemma, to be there in case news are a bit of a surprise)

Don't know what you should do but think it's totally crap of your dh's work! Did he tell them it was a breast lump? Obviously it must be a worry for both of you and he is just trying to fix things by fussing - men are like that often, must fix stuff even when it doesn't need fixing! There will be breast specialist nurses at the clinic there to support you - you won't feel alone I'm sure. Do you think he might relax a bit if you explain that to him or is it just the journey?

I would want to go too. Its not ideal going alone but I'd rather do that than postpone or miss it, so no YANBU but if you can find someone to keep you company I'd go for it

at this late stage of your pregnancy, i'm sure any lumps and bumps are put down to hormones/milk production and ducty type things....and i'm sure you couldn't have any tests which are too invasiove anyway.

would it be worth phoning them and saying how pg you are and asking if they still want to see you, or if they can offer you a new appt for a few weeks time, post birth...although saying that, the situation will probably be the same then..

hmmm. i think though, i would go, but get a lift if at all possible. could it be combined with a shopping trip for the driver, so they can drop you at the hossie, and just pick you up when you are done, rather than come in wityh you?

hope all is ok.

He wants someone to drive me but his sis and his cousin haven't been driving very long so my heart will be in my mouth on the motorway. He normally drives.

The hospital know how many weeks pregnant I am. The GP said she thinks the lump is unrelated to pregnancy as it's been there a while now and it's very hard. But I'm hoping it is pregnancy related as my boobs are generally lumpyish at the best of times so pregnancy would add to that.

Northern- his work know what it's for but they're not very nice. They just say 'that's retail'.

Mum said she wants to chat to my sister to see if she can make alternative arrangements for the kids that day so keep your fingers crossed she can drive me.

Decisions decisions eh.