Quick background, I am 30 wks pregnant with 2 other DC and am a SAHM.
About 3 mths ago I was offered some casual work until I wanted to stop (10hrs a week) doing something that I love and that also would be a real pleasure to do.
I didn't realistically think about taking it as obviously I am going to be having a baby soon and I thought the childcare would be a pain to sort out at youngest DS is only 2.4.
I mentioned it to DH and he was all for it, yy you should do it, would be nice to have some extra money, nice for you to be out working etc.
He then mentioned to MIL and she offered to provide the childcare (she doesn't work). I was v dubious as she has an awful track record for reliability and is quite flightly ie going on holiday at a days notice, always late for appts etc. DH told me I had hurt her feelings saying no and that as if she would not turn up if I had to go to work etc. She also told me she had no holidays planned until Feb (you can see where this is going?)
So we worked out what days/hours she could do and I arranged this with my work.
She lasted one week
Phoned me up the following week to ask if I needed her that week? Um well yes you kind of have to go to work every week not just once. Except there was this thing she really wanted to go to and it was only for 2 weeks and tbh she thought the whole thing might be too much for her, and DS is very energetic. WHICH IS EXACTLY WHY I HAD SAID SHE SHOULDN'T DO IT.
So, she stopped looking after DS 'but I could do the 4th of Jan between 2pm and 2.34 if you need me darling'
So I am now looking like a tit one week into my new job with NO childcare arranged.
My friend graciously offers to have DS for me, after no local childminders would take him for only a few months and hardly any had space anyway.
DH moans like a bitch about it. How he really doesn't want DS to be at her house 10hrs a week, how DS is going to bored, she isn't v good at looking after children, poor DS etc. He has taken every opportunity to moan about her looking after him, even down to her 'letting' him fall asleep in the buggy
All whilst not actually finding any solution himself.
So I manage to get DS into playschool for one of the days, DS hates it . DH and MIL moaning now that DS is going to a playschool he doesn't like, poor DS etc.
I am by this point ready to explode. I feel like shit, unsupported, guilty at leaving DS, selfish for wanting to work and generally picked on tbh.
This is when DH drops into the conversation that actually he thinks everyone has bent over backwards to help me back to work (he is talking about the two situations I needed him to run DS to my friends house) and that it's not as if you are doing a 'proper' job that you need to do, it is something that you wanted to do and now you expect everyone else to help you sort out the childcare stuff.
Please please tell me if you think I am actually BU and I will jack the job in today