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should i phone police?? please help

29 replies

BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 13:19

Next door are having the biggest fight! lots of banging and screaming. should i call the police?

I know he has a drug habbit and thats have being going bad fir them. Last week she told me he called her a "f*ing cunt"

doesn't sound good, making my stomach churn listening to them

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bruxeur · 25/01/2010 13:19

Yes.

4littlelions · 25/01/2010 13:21

If you do call the police just stay indoors, don't stick your head out of the door as they cart him off, you'll get no thanks from your neighbour in the long run

LouIsOnAHighwayToHell · 25/01/2010 13:21

They could just be having a loud noisy fight. On the other hand they could be stabbing each other. If YOU feel uncomfortable then you need to do what you think is right. It is not going to hurt to call the police and if something did happen at least you know you did what you could. If there are kids there too then yes call definitely.

Southwind · 25/01/2010 13:21

Yes.

JoeyBettany · 25/01/2010 13:22

Yes call the police

Fibilou · 25/01/2010 13:23

Yes, from a police officer (me). Definitely call.

You don't know what's going on in there. It might be nothing - but it might not be. Don't worry, they won't say "the woman next door sent us".

thesecondcoming · 25/01/2010 13:25

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BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 13:26

Their kids are at school as far as i know. shit, going to phone police now, sounds like he's trashing the house.

thanks fibilou, did wonder if he'd know it was me

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pooexplosions · 25/01/2010 13:29

Yes, I would. I should have done when my neighbours were kicking the crap out of each other instead of letting DH go to see if her could help the woman. Turns out she was more agressive than her boyfriend and tried to punch and kick my DH.
Should have got them both arrested. Either way, call the cops and stay inside, don't even peek out of a window.

ilovemydogandmrobama · 25/01/2010 13:29

Hopefully the police would just check to make sure everyone is OK, so yes, call

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BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 13:34

Have phoned, doesn't sound like just a row, I'm evem more worried now because she has gone quiet but there is still lots of banging about.

Would knock on but i'm on my own with my baby.

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clam · 25/01/2010 13:41

Don't knock. I mean, he's hardly likely to say "oh, sorry, shouldn't have been angry. My fault." and calm down, now is he?

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BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 13:54

I know Clam, I meant to see if I could help her, give the opportunity to get out if she needs to!

Police are there now.

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OtterInaSkoda · 25/01/2010 13:58

Glad you called. Although our local constabulary tend to avoid anything a bit scary ime. Feckers. Sorry fibilou - I think ours are particularly lame, or it might be the ocntrol centre.

Did they give you any indication as to when they might call round?

OtterInaSkoda · 25/01/2010 13:59

Oh good (sorry, x-post)

macdoodle · 25/01/2010 13:59

Absolutely yes, my XH and I had many many "rows", which consisted of him screaming at me, pushing, grabbing, trashing things, no one ever called the police I live in a terraced house in a small close

When my best friend was in the house one night when he kicked off, and DID call the police finally, it finally gave me the push to realise how absolutely shitty and abusive the relationship was and finally file for divorce (even after being seperated 2 years)!

BertieBotts · 25/01/2010 14:01

I don't know, knocking on the door might surprise him enough to calm down, if it was a big man standing there. Absolutely DO NOT knock if you are alone with your baby though! Just thought I would mention as my ex once had a violent rage (not directed at me) and I was trying to calm him down, nothing was working, he started to rant at me as well and I could see in his eyes that he was not really conscious(?) - like he was a different person, anyway our neighbour knocked on the door and said "Sounds like you are having a party, can I come in?" (It did not sound remotely like a fun party, I can assure you) and it seemed to snap him out of it. Which was good as I was about to call the police

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BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 14:02

The police are still in there and its all quiet now. Really hope she's ok.

Macdoodle, sorry you went through such a shit time with your ex

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Rindercella · 25/01/2010 14:03

Pleased you called. Do not be tempted to go and see if she's ok for yourself.

In these situations it is far better to err on the side of caution.

I hope she's ok.

GypsyMoth · 25/01/2010 14:03

yes,when police came (sadly called by my dd who was then 9)to me,a really nice police lady sat me down and said her parents were like this and she never fully understood why her mum stayed. her story gave me courage to get out too. she told me alot more than she should have done. i left the next day with the help of the fabulous army welfare and SSAFA,

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BobbyTheBird · 25/01/2010 14:13

Thanks for replys. Have just seen him come out with a bag, has walked off down the street, one police man now sat in his car, I think the other one is still inside with her.

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Madascheese · 25/01/2010 15:21

I'm glad you called.

Times I wished and wished one of my neighbours would have called because I didn't have the courage to.

They didn't meet my eye in the street though and I used to wonder what I was supposed to be ashamed of....now 4 years later on I realise it wasn't me who had to be ashamed of myself.

xMad

ChickensLoveMarmite · 25/01/2010 15:26

You did the right thing, OP.

ilovemydogandmrobama · 25/01/2010 15:31

wow -- sounds as if the police dealt with it quite well!

Lomond · 25/01/2010 15:56

You really did do the right thing, better to be safe than sorry.