to be miffed that dh was stood there at the door telling a complete stranger that he's barely ever here??

[Megglevache]

The stranger in question was a new window cleaner, who asked Dh if he worked from home to which dh replied with the above and mentioned where he ususally worked from i.e. far away and for long periods of time.

There have been lots of attempted/break ins in our local area and I sleep very little as it is without Dh telling all and sundry and leaving stuff in plain view...

Tsk....he's gone off in a huff because I mentioned I 'd appreciate him not saying stuff like that to just anyone, particularly someone outside our home... he tutted and rolled his eyes....grrrr

YANBU.

YANBU - Unless the window cleaner is actually his brother.

YANBU - I avoid telling any strangers the times our house is empty - surely it's just common sense?

I also put the car in the garage every night, as it means people can't tell if the house is empty just by looking for the car, IYSWIM (and it means I never have to scrape the ice off it either).

Your DH is being foolish - is he being huffy because he realises he's done a stupid thing, and doesn't like it being pointed out? Not that I'd do something like that, oh no.....

That was an idiotic thing to do.

Thank you, nobody think I am over reacting? I am feeling a bit more justified, still smoldering though.

He's fab in many ways but when it comes to common sense, sometimes I think zero.

No, that was idiotic

I've never been asked by a window cleaner whether I worked from home, either...sounds suspect

That what I said! But may I have added a few sarcky lines too.. about giving him our account number, sort code and PIN numbers...

Just bumping before I speak to my dh

I'm not too anal about security and peace of mind, am I? Would you' ve minded?

YADNBU - he was daft to tell him all of that. I would have been cross too if I was in your shoes.

I would have been pissed off. DH worked nights for the first 7 years of our relationship and I would not have ben happy if he had let people know that I was on my own at night. It's just common sense in my opinion. Maybe get you DH to watch this?

I'd be really mad if I were you, a bit worried too. YANBU! Tell him he's a twat!

Tsk, broken banana, very true.

He laughs at me when I take special measures when we leave the house for an extended period.

When he lived alone (in thsi house) he'd often leave his bedroom window open and even when on holiday he'd leave the back door unlocked....ahhhh nothing happened did it....

It is a sad state of affairs that you can't leave windows open anymore but that's the way it is now. A friend of mine left her front door unlocked while she was in the house and someone came in, nicked her car keys and then niicked her car. Security is important and he needs to understand that. I bet he would feel terrible if the house got burgled or someone tried to get in.

Nope, not unreasonable. I would have been cross too. I am sure the window cleaner is ok, but you never know do you? and if he was outside when having this conversation you never know who else heard.

well I pride myself on not being nervous when alone and walking alone at night and generally being as confident and optimistic as possible....and even I would be livid if dh said something like that! What a numpty.

Tbh I'm a bit concerned that a new window cleaner asked about the working from home thing - not that I think he's after your body (lovely though it is I'm sure) but because that's exactly what a burglar would love to know - even if he's honest himself (I expect he is) you never know who he's going to tell. Make sure your windows are locked and tell your dh to think next time!

I think he's gone off in a huff because he knows he's messed up.

I'd be miffed, but my dh is more security conscious than I am!

We were broken into 3 years ago while we were asleep in the house and even though dh was there then and there was nothing we could have done, I always jam a chair under the back door on the nights he is working!! (twice a week, not telling when )

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeek and shudder, I'm having a brandy before I got to bed at night or I'll never get and zzzzzs.

Northern, you were wrong actaally, the body is rather grim, but the car's quite nice

YANBU I'd be absolutely furious!
Make him watch a couple of those killer catcher documentaries they always have random suburban murders on them, he'll be to scared to put the bin out in the dark after that.

Just get him to watch Crimewatch a few times. That will do the job. I don't sleep after I've watched Crimewatch - and I always manage to watch it when DH is away.

And YANBU - it was a bloody stupid thing to volunteer to a random stranger.