to be a little bit offended at this pass the parcel game?

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I've been thinking about this for a few days and I might be being a little bit petty, but it's bugging me so I either need to be reassured that I'm ok to be a little bit miffed, or to be told to snap out of it.

DS (3) went to a small birthday party. It was a get together sort of thing rather than a party, with only four children including the birthday child.

We all had a nice time, and it wasn't like a structured party with set events, just a relaxed sort of thing, but there were 2 games of pass the parcel.

So...two children won a prize. The mum was doing the music and was watching to make sure the birthday child didn't end up winning, but it meant the other two children each got something but DS didn't.

It just strikes me as a bit odd, maybe a bit unthinking.

FGS tell me to stop thinking about it.

stop thinking about it

tis a bit odd alright.

but tis also not worth spending time being irritated about

You are being a little bit petty - but I do always like to see every child having something when they're that little. Normally putting little things between the layers makes sure no-one gets left out.

stop thinking about it

the mum I am sure didn't realise

and I am sure your DS wouldn't know it wasn't equitable

stop thinking about it, its the way life is.

I feel better now that I know I was thinking about nothing. I shall think of it no more.

You have to watch the game to make sure that everyone gets a turn at opening otherwise all hell breaks loose. That's why most people put sweets or something small in each layer.

I personally prefer to pass round a box or bucket of very small, individually wrapped presents so that each child gets a tiny something. It's a bit of a cop-out, I know, as children should learn they can't win all the time but at least I never have to cope with hysterical losers at my parties!!!

tis thoughtless but only that, but apart from that sounds like a sweet little do

a bit shortsighted by the mum but if DS wasn't fussed then i would move on

It wasn't the no winning that bothered me, just the thoughtlessness of it. DS didn't notice anyway. It was only me that thought anything of it.

What I mean is that it would have been better to have just 1 game so only one child won, rather than only one not winning.

Was thoughtless and i would have let them all win a little pressie but take a deep breath and let it go
My sister said she couldn't do the music a few years ago at a pass the parcel game as she couldn't take the stress!!ha ha

I hate pass the parcel, but dd insists on it

I did forfeits instead of gifts in each layer, it did NOT go down well

I don't remember it being so fraught when I was a youngster

bit sort of short sighted by the mum, but put it out of your mind now.

I think with three year olds you need to make sure no one gets left out - they're only just learning about games, parties and so on.

If I had games like pass the parcel where there was a definite 'winner' I tried to intersperse them with games likes musical statues, where the winner was a bit more subjective (i.e. chosen by me), so everyone 'won' something.

I wonder if one of you didn't RSVP, so the parents catered for fewer children?

It's how it was done in the Old Days!

Oh dear. Are you going to suffer as he grows..

agree with Cat - indeed when I've done PassTParcel at my DS's parties I DON'T put anything between the layers............and I don't even look to make sure the same child doesn't unwrap a layer twice.

The invted children have been back here on later occasions so obviously haven't been too badly scarred by it

DS wasn't bothered at all. I just thought it was a bit thoughtless on the part of the mum.
I'm still a bit scarred from a game of pass the parcel last year, where DS DID win the prize and the mother said loud enough for me to hear 'oh, I didn't mean him to win'.

Hully, probably, yes. I'm too sensitive for my own good. You'd have thought MN would have toughened me up by now

So your child was the only one without a prize?

If that is so then is is mean, but let it go, it is not worth brooding over.
^ ^
Checks to see if anyones looking
Whispers in ear....

Make sure when you have a party everyone except these 3 get a prize..

/walks away whistling

But TWO children didn't get a prize - the b'day child and yours. Two did, two didn't.

And since ther will be so many occasions on which your child does raise merry hell, best to save energy and stop thinking about the occasions when they don't!