To be sad that I've done all my pregnancies/giving birth/newborn experiences?

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Even though I know I don't want any more children. I wouldn't mind parts of being pregnant again, but some parts just make me shudder. And, although I'm delighted I've given birth four times, and can honestly say they were fantastic experiences, the thought of doing that pain again just frightens me!

So how come I still feel a bit sad about it?

me too

I loved being pregnant, I loved having all of my children. If DS2 hadn'thad such severe problems I am sure I would have had one more and I am very sad I am finished.

I know we are, it is the right decision for many many good reasons. I could not be luckier with my three, I am astonishingly fortunate. I would not dream of trying again.

But stll a bit sad

YANBU

I agree. Actually, have a lump in my throat thinking about it.

Am definately done(3), but the 'finality' (if there is such a word) of it is sad.

Same here am seriously considering being sterlised but that is just so final even though though I know I don't want anymore children 4 is plenty.

Very natural to feel sadness that such an important part of your life has ended IMO.

I had to have a radical hysterectomy 4 and a bit years ago when DS2 was 15 months and really it's taken a long time to come to terms with no more babies.

It's only now both are at school that I can honestly say I wouldn't want anymore if I had the chance but I still get pangs of sadness when I see pregnant women.

I'm with you. My youngest is 3 and I'm just about coming to the point were I can feel broody and enjoy a tiny baby, without aching with the need to have another msyelf. I stopped bfing ds 2m ago, just after he turned 3, and he still talks about it, still tells me how lovely it was. And when he is miserable/overtired/poorly I struggle not to just take him in my arms and offer.

We got rid of the changing table and highchair. Soon the cot will go, then the buggy (which in any case we barely use any more).

It does feel like a loss...even though there are exciting and wonderful things to look forward to.

after 5 i'm 'done' too. loved most of it....not the horrific pregnancy sickness that went on to 28 weeks,that was tough,but the rest was great.

no more newborns here til i'm a grandma!

YANBU.

DS2 (our second DC) is only 2 weeks old. We always said we would stop at 2.

Already feel sad at thought of this being our last baby. Even though i am shattered!

Are you all bonkers?!?!?!!?

I am so glad that to be nearly done with all that.

In the last 7 years I have gone through:

1. A traumatic termination
2. Given birth to a baby girl (hyperemesis, episiotomy, ventouse)
3. Emergency ectopic pregnancy
4. Another ectopic pregnancy
5. Early miscarriage
6. Another early miscarriage
7. Another not so early miscarriage
8. Struggled to conceive dd2
9. Hyperemesis again, SPD and nasty tear from birthing 10pound 5ounce baby.

Currently struggling with 4 month old that doesn't sleep very well and so glad that I am on the home stretch now.

No more timed sex, pregnancy tests, pain, hospital appointments......

Just getting through my last newborn stage and I am done

oh dear I must be the bad mummy because my first thought as ds (2nd dc) was born was "thank God I don't have to go through this again, that's it now"

Does that make me very bad

awww, i feel sad too

I never forget my HV saying to me once "oh we have to be very sensitive about suggesting women stop BF as it might be their last time" - i was V poorly and still insisting on BF, that really helped I remember thinking last time? thank god for that - but now, i do feel wistful, not sad.

There is a small part of me that thinks, go on, just one more.............i only have two btw but a 15y gap which has made me feel like i have been a mummy for a looooooong time

Me too. The thing I really miss is feeling a baby move inside me. Many other things I am not sad about .....

I am looking forward to being a grandmother.

YANBU, I love the newborn stage, that feeling as if there is no-one in the world as close as you and your baby.

I would love another one, have a child with SN though and no suitable prospective father so thats that .