to think the school should have asked more questions.

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DD1 is 3.11 and is in school nursery. Her best friend (A) is 3.10.
DD1's BF's sister (Call her B, she is 6) (bear with me) is not well and I saw her mum dropping A off this morning with B in her pjs looking miserable so I called and offered to pick up DD1 and A at end of nursery session and walk them back to her house (it is on the way to mine) Fine, she was grateful adn called the school to tell them i was taking A home.
Get to school, my DD1 is 2nd last out and A is still inside. I say to the teacher that she is coming wiht me and that A's mum should have called.
'oh, I haven't had that, never mind A, you are going with Jack' and that was that, no questions, no queries, no checking A was ok with this, she just handed her over and went back inside.

I told A's mum and we are both very but not sure if we are overreacting, the school know DD1 and A are BF's and inseperable but still, that's a bit off isn't it?

no, you are another parent - surely they trust you? If it was someone who wasn't known to the school then that would be quite different

Sorry, I agree with LEM. The school knows you are a parent and are friends so they trusted you.

If they hadnt let you take her, would you be on here asking "surely they should have trusted me, they know me and know our dc's are bfs".

Sometimes school's cant do right for doing wrong.

You are over reactting yes.

If you'd been collecting such a young child from my class on behalf of someone else but it was the first I'd heard of it I'd have asked you all to wait whilst the school office checked.

It comes from having experienced, more than once, the trauma of having to report a child as missing, calling all known associates etc. etc. only to later discover that s/he went home with someone completely unexpected. The Police don't take kindly to schools admitting that they hadn't actually been asked to let X go home with Y that day and just assumed it would be okay because they're friends!

I do actually agree with you a bit as I did manage to take one of DS's friends home with me by accident which led to his mum being very worried for about a minute (until she was told it was me and came and got her DS).

I was meant to be picking him up the next week, not that day. After that the systems for taking someone else's child home with you were tightened up.

I still stand by what I said - I was very well known to the school, the child in question was my DS's best friend, but I shouldn't have been taking him that day.

If the mothe rdidn't call the school then I can see where they are coming from.

I wonder what you would have posted if they had refused to let A go with you and taken ages to sort it out and made you late.
Would you have said they should trust you because your children are best friends and they know?

OK re read and yes I would be suss as well. At DC's nursery no one can pick up unless they know the password.

I wouldn't have minded in the slightest if they had asked me to wait A's mum said she would stay by the phone in case they wanted to call her to check.
I was expecting her to goand ask the office if she hadnt got the message, not to fetch a 3 yr old + hand them over, especially as I am not on the written list of people allowed to pick A up.

Those who think IABU, is it purely because I am a parent of another child that you think it is ok? As I don't think that excuses anything TBH.

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