I was supposed to return to work on Jan 4th. DD has been in nursery since then anyway which has saved my sanity. DH got moved away from home by work in October - 'for two months'. This is week 15. Quite apart from the fact I'm struggling to cope on my own, it now looks as though I'm going to have to resign as my request to change start time has been turned down three times now (I start at half 7; I've requested 8am as the creche doesn't open till 7.15 and even breaking every speed limit on empty roads I can not get to work before 7.40 at earliest). Originally, DH was to leave DD to creche and I'd pick up.
I'm particularly pissed because DH only told me he was going to be working away on the weekend before it started. No consultation or discussion. And the 2 months became February and then seems to have become March most recently. He works in construction and the company have no other contracts (to date). I work in a factory for a global company who are in rude health; my job pays the health insurance (we don't live in the UK so yes, it's very necessary) and I'm the only one of us with a pension sorted out. My job would also be secure for at least a couple of years. DH: if he leaves, he won't get redundancy. Me: Well, no shit sherlock, cos if I leave neither will I. We would also have to repay health insurance premiums etc to the company for the time I've been on unpaid leave (fortunately, Global Co agreed with short notice that I could take the max amount of unpaid additional maternity leave permitted when I phoned from Shit Creek back in October).
I feel like I've been shat on by DH once re: being effectively left to bring up DD on my own. And I'm probably now going to have to leave my job, that I like and have great colleagues, to try and find something else in the middle of a recession, so dumped on again.
Oh, and according to DH, childcare is my problem.