to think that ex-H is scaremongering?

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He's just sent me a link to a facebook page about an alleged paedophile that allegedly lives in my road.

Aside from the fact that i've never seen this man despite having lived here nearly 8 months, i have no idea as to the authenticity of the claims and charges being made about this man (for all i know, it could have been set up as a bogus by a disgruntled ex-partner or something!).

What i don't get is why ex-H has sent me this in the first place? Does he expect me to up and move or something just because there may be a local paedophile? It baffles me! (heads up - i have a 4 year old DS with him, a 6 month old DD with new partner, and the split was pretty acrimonious, he doesn't like new partner at all etc and so on, always making digs about where i now live)

If the allegations are true, surely he is less of a risk to my family just by the very fact that he's a 'known'? I'd be more worried about all the ones that are but nobody knows where they live, or the ones that haven't been caught / convicted yet!

What are your opinions?

I agree with you, the ones that are not known are the most dangerous, and i wouldn't trust anything posted on FB to be fact.

er,well i saw with my own eyes what a 'known' paedophile can physically do to a child....i left the police service shortly after! however,your ex may well just be concerned,or want to worry you. who knows?

Your exH is mad. Even if this man is a paedophile AND lives in your street, you aren't going to be asking him to babysit your DCs are you?

I would suggest a very calm email asking him what exactly he would like you to do about this.

He is scaremongering

A. I'd want concrete evidence before I believed anything of this kind, especially from FB.

B. Given your ex's opinions of your new partner and home area I'd be inclined to think that this is a poor attempt at emotional blackmail on his part.

I would be inclined to send him a reply saying that it's a great pity that my messed-up computer doesn't, for some odd reason, allow me to access FB.

That should pee on his strawberries.

i sent ex-H a message back saying to that effect, and i got just a sentence back basically saying 'well you have been informed'.

Not sure what he expects me to do or say?!?

ah, but i'd already clicked on the link to see what is was about as there was no clue in his message title! Not sure why he's trawling the internet to find out stuff about where i live anyway? Probably his mother with nothing better to do!

I'm actually quite surprised Facebook allow such pages to be started up anyway - its quite detailed, and although the man concerned isn't named, there's a photo of him on the page!

I wouldn't even get into a discussion about it, I'd ignore the email (although a bit late now, I know!).

Tell the ex that you will expect him on your doorstep within the hour, ready to collect and care for your son indefinately as you can't possibly keep him at your house now you know this.

Of course you'll expect the ex to give up his job/arrange childcare, buy a full set of clothes, toys and furniture, give up his social life in order to care for his child 24/7 as you do....

Vallhala -

That's exactly what DP has just said! Somehow i suspect DH would soon be back-pedalling somewhat, especially as i have DS 75% of the time!