to wish that Bridezillas wouldn't encourage other brides to spend shedloads of money?

[nickelbabe]

I'm just browsing the you and your wedding forums, and i noticed the following comment & response:

by Ms_Issock
"If you have agreed £1200 I can see why he is annoyed. £1200 is a huge amount of money to spend on a dress you will be wearing for a few hours. Can you not see that?

There are literally thousands of dresses out there and a lot of them are under your agreed amount.

The honeymoon sounds expensive too. Did you both agree you wanted to go to Hong Kong or is it simply somewhere you want to go? Is that the cheapest you can do it?
Maybe you should look at alternative destinations, afterall the importance of the honeymoon is to spend time together and that time can be spent anywhere. It doesn't have to cost so much."

then by Pippa a
"Hi Knot
I would ignore the post above - she has said some pretty harsh comments on other threads in the last couple of days. I had exactly the same issue with my h2b - if you look at my other topics you will see a post where I was crying over photography costs! My solution - I am now doing everything myself, making sure it stays in my budget (10k ex honeymoon) and just not telling him how things breakdown. He still thinks it is a bit of a waste of money, but knows how important it is to me, and is happier just having an amazing day for that amount rather than getting stressed about individual prices. Hope that makes sense!"

why isn't Ms Issock's comment being praised?
£1200 is a ridiculous amount to spend on a blimming weddingdress!!
ow!

please feel free to flame me, i've got my fire-retardant vest on.

"emsyj - Oh I agree but surely if your 'special day' causes you so much angst you are lying to your 'H2b' and weeping over the cost of photos, you need to calm it down a bit?"

Hmmm, I wouldn't lie to DH or h2b or whatever he was back then - would be a waste of time to try, really, as I am a hopeless liar and he wouldn't buy it for a second

BUT he did have unrealistic ideas about what things cost and was astonished when I put him in the picture. He did need a bit of time to get his head round the cost of things and some stuff we ditched due to cost and other stuff we concluded we really wanted and would therefore pay for - ironically, one of them was photography.... The cost of that made me wince a bit, but the album is beautiful - no weeping tho. Agree that does sound extreme.

emsyj and Viv, your weddings sound fantastic, just what I want mine to be A damn good time, basically! Of course it doesn't matter how much or how little people choose to spend and on what, but I don't think it's unreasonable to want spending decisions to be joint ones, as yours obviously were. I think I would feel really uncomfortable walking down the aisle in a dress that had been the cause of rows between DP and I, which is what the OP is kind of getting at.

YAYW is hilarious. They should rename it itsurdayhun.co.uk

Must pop over - not been there for ages.

YANBU btw. Not matter how outrageous the OP there'll be a billion posters repeating the "its ur day hun" mantra in response.

Otter - .

KERALA1 the point of the OP was just to see if i could get and keep a discussion going.
and plus, i'm going to be a poor bride (with little chance of ever being able to afford to have a reception after the wedding at this rate!!)

Otter: excellent post.